My Story: Melanoma Diagnosis, Surgery, Recovery and Self-Advocacy | Ep 171
In this episode, I share my journey of being diagnosed with melanoma, the fear that crept in after hearing the surgeon's treatment plan, and how I chose to use my tools to set aside the fear, step into positive action, and release all doubt about my ability to walk my own path. I share this story because I want others to know that you can be an advocate for doing things your way when it comes to your health. Seek second opinions, bring in other healers and resources, and stand in your own power. đź’Ş
I hope my story inspires you to take charge of your health journey, motivates you to set up your own network of healers to call on in your time of need, and educates you on the many options available in your healing journey. You don’t have to say yes to the first option offered. 🌟
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Episode Summary:
Melissa's Holistic Healing Approach and Growth
Melissa, a healer and host of the "Don't Wait for Your Wake Up!" podcast, shared her client Dawn's testimonial and discussed her approach to healing. Melissa emphasized her holistic approach to detoxing the body, mind, and spirit, addressing various forms of toxins that impact health. She also highlighted the importance of continuous learning and growth. Melissa shared her recent experience, illustrating how she applied her own tools to navigate a challenging situation. She promised to elaborate on this experience in the following podcast episode.
Melissa's Melanoma Journey and Decision-Making
Melissa shared her journey with skin cancer, specifically a mole on her lower right leg that was diagnosed as melanoma in situ and later as invasive melanoma. She shared that her fair skin and previous exposure to sunburn as a child in Australia increased her risk of developing melanoma. After the diagnosis, she was referred to a surgeon, who explained that due to the invasive nature of the cancer, it was necessary to remove some of her lymph nodes. However, Melissa decided to postpone this procedure as she needs to carefully consider the potential negative side effects and her love for her active lifestyle.
Melissa's Personal Health Journey and Empowerment
Melissa shared her personal experience with health challenges, specifically a 10-year-old melanoma. She emphasized the importance of personal agency in one's health journey, highlighting that individuals should make choices that work best for them. Melissa shared her decision to undergo lymph node removal to determine if the cancer had spread, despite the potential negative side effects. However, she also sought alternative solutions, such as high dose vitamin C treatment, to bolster her immune system and potentially eliminate cancer cells. Melissa's story underscored the importance of being informed, proactive, and empowered in one's health.
Melissa's Journey to Healing and Empowerment
Melissa shared her journey of deciding against removing lymph nodes during her melanoma surgery, after consulting with various healthcare practitioners and energy healers. With their guidance, she explored her emotional triggers for the disease, ultimately discovering the root cause in a past corporate job and a recent pandemic-related event. Through timeline therapy, she released the attached emotions and doubt, empowering her to take control of her health journey. Melissa encouraged others to seek second and third medical opinions and to use their knowledge for better decision-making. She also highlighted her other lifestyle changes, including high dose vitamin C, energy healing, and a cancer-fighting diet.
Melissa's Mole Removal Surgery Decisions
Melissa shared her decision to undergo a mole removal surgery without having the lymph nodes removed, preferring a nerve block and her new 'calm, healing frequencies' to general anesthesia. She discussed this choice with both the plastic and oncological surgeons, who were initially apprehensive but ultimately supportive of her approach. Melissa also agreed to undergo routine ultrasound exams every six months post-surgery to monitor for any recurring cancer, a suggestion made by the oncological surgeon.
Melissa's Surgery Experience and Recovery
Melissa shared her positive experience of undergoing a surgery without the need for anesthesia, relying solely on her nerve block and her own coping mechanisms. She described the support she received from the 9 different healthcare professionals involved, from the initial check-in to the post-surgery discharge. Melissa also emphasized her decision not to take any pain medication after leaving the hospital, opting instead to focus on her healing and following the surgeon's instructions carefully. She reported no pain since the car ride home and a quick and successful recovery.
Empowering Patients in Health and Healing
Melissa shared her recent experience with surgery and the measures she took to enhance her healing. She emphasized the importance of understanding the 'why' behind any instructions given by medical professionals and utilizing her own tools and network of people to aid in her recovery. Melissa advocated for patients to be empowered in their health, to ask questions, seek second opinions, and to take their time in making decisions. She also offered to connect those in need with her own network of healers. Melissa concluded by sharing her belief in the body's inherent ability to heal and the importance of maintaining a positive mindset.
About the Host:
Melissa is an Integrative Health Practitioner and a Board Designated Trainer of NLP, Time Line Therapy® and Hypnotherapy, helping people get to the root cause of their health issues and then get lasting results. Melissa neither diagnoses nor cures but helps bring your body back into balance by helping discover your “toxic load” and then removing the toxins. Melissa offers functional medicine lab testing that helps you “see inside” to know exactly what is going on, and then provides a personalized wellness protocol using natural herbs and supplements. Melissa’s business is 100% virtual – the lab tests are mailed directly to your home and she specializes in holding your hand and guiding the way to healing so that you don’t have to figure it all out on your own.
Melissa is the winner of the 2021 & 2022 Quality Care Award by Business From The Heart and is also the recipient of the Alignable “Local Business Person of the Year “Award 2022 for Whistler.
Melissa has been featured at a number of Health & Wellness Summits, such as the Health, Wealth & Wisdom Summit, The Power To Profit Summit, The Feel Fan-freaking-tas-tic Summit, the Aim Higher Summit and many more! She has also guested on over 60 different podcasts teaching people about the importance of prioritizing our health and how to get started.
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Transcript
Imagine getting up every day full of energy is if you were in your 20s. Again, what would that be like? What would that be worth to you? What is your health worth to you? Think about it. Your health isn't everything. But without it, everything else is nothing. And yet too many of us are taking it for granted until something goes wrong. No one wakes up hoping to be diagnosed with a disease or chronic illness. And yet we've never been taught how to be proactive in our health through our school system, or public health. As a registered health coach and integrative health practitioner, I believe it is time this information is made available to everyone. Combining new knowledge around your health and the ability to do my functional medicine lab tests in the comfort of your own home will allow you to optimize your health for today in all your tomorrow's don't wait for your wake up call welcome back to another episode of The don't wait for your wake up call podcast. I am Melissa Deally your podcast host and before we dive into today's episode and a whole new theme for the month of June 2024. I just want to share a beautiful testimonial that I received recently from a client of mine and Don Tedesco from Langley BC says Melissa de Lee is the real deal. She is an incredible healer and she's the only one that you want on your side to help you unlock the healer within yourself. She will walk confidently with you down the path as she has already walked down at herself. She not only knows what she is doing, she is living proof of that. But she up levels and upgrades her skills continuously through many different modalities to ensure that her tool belt is better equipped than any other healer I have met. Not only she the friendly toxin Slayer, she also teaches you that you are in control, you are powerful, and you will prevail. A better doctor, teacher and human being I have not met thanking you, Melissa so sincerely you have helped me change my life and regain my control. Thank you, Don, so much for taking the time to share that testimonial. It is truly an honor to guide my clients on their healing journey. And through the different training programs that I teach and being able to witness people's transformation through these programs. And that ties in beautifully with what I want to talk about today and share with you this month, June, we are talking about toxins. And toxins don't come in only one form. There can be the chemical toxins, there can be toxic thoughts, toxic emotions, heavy metal toxins, there's so many forms that toxins come in, and they negatively impact our health. And that's why I call myself the friendly toxins there because I help people to detox their physical body. And then we detox the stuff down emotions that have been stuffed down in the body, sometimes for years decades, causing disease later in life, as well as the mental toxins. All of those unconscious conversations we have with ourselves about not being good enough being powerless, being unlovable, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, those limiting beliefs. I call them mental toxins, and then spiritual toxicity as well. And to me that's just being out of alignment with who you are truly meant to be. At this time on Earth, are you living your purpose? Are you living your purpose with passion, and when we don't have that alignment, and we're not living our purpose, it's often difficult for us to find true joy and happiness in our life. And so helping people to detox that realign themselves with who they were truly meant to be, and find that joy in their life. And so this work brings me great pleasure. And I've learned so much in the last nine years since I've been out of the corporate world. And embracing all of this knowledge out there and knowing that there is always more to learn. And we kind of jokingly say, and the courses that I teach that the learning is ongoing throughout our life, just like our health journey is ongoing throughout our life. And we're not done until we're dead. And we don't want to be dead. So don't close yourself off. Keep open to curiosity, keep open to learning of whatever it is that interests you, so that you can continue to grow and thrive. Live in your life. And let's face it, life happens. We get curveballs thrown in our way things come up. And that's what recently happened to me. And that's what I'm going to be sharing with you today because I want to share with you that it's how we respond to what life throws at us as to how we're able to move through it. And with all the tools and the training that I have, this was a true test for me in being able to apply my own tools and use them in order to come through this with ease and grace. So let me back up. In January of 2024, I was able to see a skinned Doctor dermatologist for a mole that I had on my lower right leg. Now this mole I've had on my lower right leg for 10 years or more about 10 years. And in fact, in 2014, I had a dermatologist look at it, and he told me that it was called melanoma in situ. And he explained that to me as being like thick icing on top of a cake that never goes down into the kick. So he said We'll watch it. However, it's not really anything to worry about. And the year prior, I had had melanoma removed from my elbow of my left arm. And it was a surgery, they removed it all the oncologist said, we got it all you're good, you're cured. Perfect textbook scenario. And when he said, you know, you're cured, in my mind, I went, how do you know it hasn't spread throughout my body. And that's really what started me looking into detoxing and taking better care of my body because I didn't know if it had spread or not spread. And I just wanted to make sure that I wasn't feeding my cancer cells, and that I was giving my killer cells, the optimal chance to be fending off any cancers. Now, I'm very fair skinned. The first six years of my life I lived in Australia, it was back in a time where we didn't have sunscreen. And so I have many photos of me, taken from that young age when I was beet red. So if a dis ease is going to show up in me the damage to my skin was done way back then. And that's the dermatologist explained to me that it's really the first kind of nine years of your life nine to 10 years of your life that if you get sunburned a lot, you have a higher risk of melanoma later in life. So I am in that higher risk category. And so I've been seeing my dermatologist every year for checkups. Well, two years ago, I noticed this mole was starting to change a little bit. And I when I went to my appointment, I had him check it and he said yep, it's Don't worry about it, it's all good. And then last year in 2023, it was changing more and it was getting kind of dark. And I felt not unlike what this is doing. So I saw him again for my regular checkup. And he said it's fine, don't worry about it. And then this January, I had a new dermatologist because he had retired, my previous dermatologists had report retired, and this dermatologist because she was new, you know, she said, you know, maybe we should just biopsy it and see. And so we did. And that biopsy came back saying that this was malignant invasive melanoma.
Melissa Deally:And so, as a result, I was referred to a surgeon. And remember I've had melanoma removed before. And last time I had the appointment with the surgeon, I drove to his office, he removed it then in there I left and that was that I got the pathology report and learned that they got it all within a week or so. And so it was an easy process to go through. And I didn't think this was going to be any different. And so I was referred to the surgeon, and it took a while to get through there was I tried to go back to the previous surgeon and then he only does plastic surgery now and then I was referred to another surgeon who doesn't do melanoma cases. So then the third surgeon, I got the appointment with and all of that took a bit of time. So in very early March, I went and saw her and in my mind, I'm thinking I'm going for the surgery today she's going to remove it in her office and then I'm going to drive home. However, that was not the case. So when I saw her, she sat me down to tell me that because this was malignant invasive melanoma based on databases in Australia and in New York, it had a nine to 12% chance of having metastasized to other parts of my body. She therefore wanted to take out my lymph nodes three to four have lymph nodes in order to then inform my follow up protocol after surgery. And I said, Wait a minute, are we not doing surgery today? And she said, No, no, no, you're just here today to learn the process. And I was like, Okay, this is different. And she starts telling me about all the negative side effects of having my lymph nodes removed. And I'm listening to these going, I really liked my legs, I really liked my outdoor life, I really don't feel that I want to have my lymph nodes removed at this time, this is something that I need to look into, and not anything that I'm agreeing to here today. And these potential negative side effects did not sound good at all. And as I share this story with you, I really want you to understand, this is my story. This is me making the choices that I made. For me, this is not me telling you what you should do for you by any stretch of the imagination. I'm sharing this story only because I want you to realize that we can be empowered in our health journey. And that's what I chose to be. And you can choose to be empowered in your health journey as well and to advocate for yourself. However, you need to do it the right way for you. You don't need to do it I did for me, because that isn't going to be the right way for you. We are all coming to, you know our health issues, from different places, right. And I also share this story with you. Because if you've been listening to my podcast for a while, if you know me, you know that I do a lot to take care of my health. And yet things come up those little bumps in the road, right? This melanoma had been in my leg for 10 years since before I got into health and wellness. And it had been laying dormant for that amount of time. And I'll circle back to that. In a later part of my story, my point is that I make my health a priority and things still come up. And that's okay. Because then we can still address them, we can still be empowered in our health. And just because it comes up doesn't mean I should just give up, you know, I've done all of this. And I still it's still I still have melanoma. So I should stop doing all of these things. No, for me, it further showed me how important it is to continue looking after my health because remember, when the damage was done, it was done when I was a young child, I can't go back and undo that. I can only do what I can do today to help prevent any more melanomas coming up or if they come up that I catch them early. And that I choose to be empowered in my health and do things my way. So back to where I was in the story there was in, I was in the surgeon's office. And she's telling me that she needs to take out my lymph nodes. And hearing those negative side effects, was putting a little bit of fear and me going I don't like the sound of this at all. And then she told me that even before she took out the lymph nodes that I needed to go to another hospital to their nuclear medicine department. And they needed to fill me with some radioactive fluids so that I would glow so they could determine which lit lymph nodes, and it would be three to four that they were going to be removing. And the purpose of removing them was to determine if the cancer had spread. And then as I said, to inform the protocol for post surgery. So on that day, I said to her, I'm really not liking the sound of the lymph nodes here. However, I do know that I need to have the mole removed, so that we can have that biopsy or the pathology afterwards to say that you got it all on the the melanoma is no longer in my leg. And she told me that she highly recommended the lymph nodes be removed. And
Melissa Deally:however, said she would give me some information so I could go home and research it. So as I left the clinic that day, she gave me paperwork to sign off for the surgery so they could book the surgery appointment. I did not sign off on the lymph node surgery at that time. And she gave me the documentation to go home and read and she also told me that she would be getting a plastic surgeon and so I would have two surgeons during my surgery. She would be removing the lymph nodes and the plastic surgeon will be removing the mole and then closing up that wound because it was going to be quite a large wound. And so I felt very comfortable with having the plastic surgeon there. The previous surgeon was a plastic surgeon and that part sounded good to me. So I'm driving home I've got a two hour drive home and of course our mind goes to you know the worst possible things right? And I catch that and I realized no, I'm not going to go into a place of fear. I don't need to go into a place of fear and I don't want to because fear triggers stress And when we're in a stress state, our immune system is weakened. And I needed my immune system to be functioning really well at this point. And so instead I went to how is this happening for me? And what action steps can I take now, in order to enhance this process and my healing and my immune system right now while I was driving through Squamish and my naturopathic doctors in Squamish, so I decided to stop into her office and task and ask about high dose vitamin C treatments. And she wasn't there, but I was able to talk to her receptionist and I know that vitamin C and high dose Vitamin C is very good at killing cancer cells, because the chemical compound of Vitamin C is very similar to sugar. And cancer cells have 15 times the sugar receptors of a healthy cell. So we don't want to be feeding our cancer cells with sugar. And they confuse vitamin C and think it's sugar and draw it all to them. And it kills them and it keeps all our healthy cells intact. So I thought, you know, I'm going to do some high dose vitamin C and help kill off some of these cancer cells that are potentially elsewhere in my body. So I did I stopped there and I booked in for that. And I came home and I talked to my husband about not doing the lymph node portion of the surgery and he was in agreement with it was a bit early for considering that I reached out to another local practitioner in Whistler, who also ran IV clinics just to find out about what options are in Whistler instead of driving to Squamish all the time. And she's a trained MD as well. So I was able to talk to her about my situation. And initially, she thought that I should do the lymph node, part of the surgery because you don't mess around with melanoma. And I agree, you don't mess around with it. However, I said, I'm taking it seriously, I'm just going to take another path. And I shared with her what I was doing, and my intentions and she said, You know what, I think you're right, I think do the surgery without the lymph nodes get the pathology from that if they don't get it all, then you can go to a plan B. However, if they get it all, and you haven't had to remove your lymph nodes, that's going to be a much easier recovery for you. So that made me feel better after having that chat with her. I also reached out to an energy healer, friend of mine, to work with him to help have him energetically remove cancer cells from my body and give my body the best chance at healing. And so we had a fabulous session together. And after that session, he also worked on me in the background because of course energetically he has my photo and he can continue working on me even though we're not doing a session over the phone or or via zoom. And I reached out to a another practitioner who specializes in new German medicine. And I have some training in new German medicine in my world of NLP we call it meta medicine. However, I wanted to talk with somebody else who could help me figure out the significant emotional events that were attached to this melanoma showing up. And remember earlier I said stuffed down emotions can trigger dis ease of the body. And every disease is triggered by a significant emotional event. So what I wanted to understand was, I knew about this melanoma for 10 years. So something triggered it 10 years ago. And then something triggered it about two years ago to start it changing. And I wanted to understand those emotions and those events. Because once I understood those, I could then use timeline therapy, one of my own techniques working with one of my colleagues to release that emotion from my body. And so we did, I had a great session with this lady. And we figured it out. And we figured out why it lay dormant for 10 years. And that was because the trigger was in the corporate world. And soon after that trigger, I was let go from the corporate world. And I was no longer having to work with that person that was the trigger in the first place. And so that's why it lay dormant for all of those years. And then I had another significant emotional event during the pandemic, didn't we all right. And that's what triggered this mole to start changing and this turning dark etc. And that melanoma going down into the skin instead of just staying on the surface. And so what I was able to do is I already had it scheduled in my calendar anyway, which was perfect because we do our own monthly timeline therapy sessions, as required by the board. Because whenever we're working with people some of their stuff gets into our body. And we need to be releasing that. So I had this scheduled already, and was able to address these specific events to clear the emotions attached to them from my body. And that was so incredibly freeing to do that. And the other thing that I cleared was doubt, I cleared any doubt. Because remember, I said driving home a little bit of that fear crept in. And so there was that little bit of doubt of going my own path advocating for myself choosing to do things my way, was the right thing, or was that making a mistake, we're so programmed that with cancer, there's one way or the highway, and that includes radiation and chemotherapy, etc. And in this case, the doctor telling me we have to take out lymph nodes. And so there was a little tiny bit of doubt that was still there niggling. And so I cleared that in the timeline therapy as well. And that was really empowering for me, because after that, I knew that I could stand in my power on my health journey. And I could ask for things to be done the way I wanted them to be done. And I also have a lot of empathy for people who are on their cancer journey, and who don't have all of the training and health knowledge that I have. I feel like our medical industry has us at the top of a lose track. And it's very, you know, very quickly, they're like this, what you have to do, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, let's do it. Let's get it done. And you're on this lose track going straight down, and there's no exit. And there's very little room for you to be able to do your own research, ask your own questions, get second and third opinions. However, I do really want to encourage that for everybody, because you need to have the knowledge. And so just asking second and third opinions just gives you a little bit more information in order to be able to make a better decision for you. And that's what I did talking to these other healers, and this other MD is that was my way of getting second opinions. And so all was good. I was doing my high dose vitamin C's I was doing my energy healing, I changed my diet to support more cancer fighting foods and boost my immune system. And then I needed to meet with both surgeons about less than a week before my surgery. And I met with a plastic surgeon first. And I let her know that I'd made my decision that I wasn't going to have the lymph nodes removed, I just was going to have the mole removed. And so I said to her, I said, you know, I know you can do that portion of it. You're all busy people, there's a lot of people that need you, I am perfectly comfortable with just having you in the surgery, I don't need the other surgeon there. I'm sure she could be better serving somebody else. And I said to her that I would really like to not be under general anesthesia because I was now just having a mole removed. And could I have it done under local. And she said it was too big of a surgery for local however, I could have a nerve block if I wanted or be under General. And I said to her, Well, I would prefer a nerve block. And I would also like to use my new calm Healing frequencies, which dropped me down into theta state, rather than any kind of anesthesia to support me through the surgery process. And I would need my phone and my earbuds and an eye mask through the process. And would that be okay? And she said, Absolutely, that's fine. Which was great. That really made me feel confident in being able to move forward with having the surgery the way I wanted to have the surgery. And I didn't have to be nasty about it, I was just simply able to say this is how I'd like to do it. And give her that information. And she was completely supportive.
Melissa Deally:I then had to speak to the oncological surgeon. And when I told her that I wasn't going to be doing having the lymph nodes removed. She said I just have to let you know that that's not my recommended protocol. And I said yes, I understand that. However, that is my choice. And then she said to me, Okay, well then I suggest if you're not doing that, that you do ultrasound every six months post surgery, so we can just make sure that we're not seeing any cancer coming back. And I thought great that doesn't require that I fill myself up with any radiation and that also doesn't require any removal of body parts or key of that with key functions in the body. And so I'm absolutely open to doing ultrasound every six months so that she can track and make sure that you know there's no other melanoma happening in the body or cancer cells expanding etc. And I also let her know about the new calm sound frequencies and wanting to use that during the surgery and clarified with her that that would be okay. And she said, Yes, no problem. So the following week, I head to the hospital with my husband. And I had an incredible experience. And I'm really happy to share this. And the people that worked with me, I had nine different people support me during that day for which for surgery that was only 15 minutes long, which is kind of crazy. However, I really appreciate all of them. So from the nurse that checked me in to the nurse, that practitioner that put an IV in my arm, I was questioning the need for why do I need an IV if I'm not doing any anesthesia, I want this to be as least invasive as possible. So it was never actually attached to anything. He said he just needed to set it up in case of emergency that they could quickly get something into me if that was needed. And given that my husband did actually have an anaphylactic reaction in the car years ago, I decided, Okay, fair enough, I'll let you stick the IV in my arm not attached to anything to the fellow that was just in charge of driving me in the hospital bed around from, you know, my check in area to the room where I was going to get the nerve block, etc. I was like, I could walk. He's like, no, no, just lie down. Let me drive you. So that was kind of a fun experience. And then to the doctor that did the nerve block, which was done through ultrasound, she was lovely. And she again allowed me to use my NuCalm frequencies. She said, most people get an anesthesia just to have the nerve block done. And I said, you know, I'm just going to use my frequencies, I think I'll be fine. And I did. And she said to me, if you find it hurting in any way, shape, or form form or you want anesthesia, just let us know, we can get that into right away. And I tuned into my frequencies, I could hear them talk to me when they needed me to answer a question. They call me by name, I could respond. I could also vaguely hear them talking. However, I had no idea what they were saying because I was in my theta state. Just chillin, enjoying the sound the music and not feeling any pain. So that was a really positive experience. And then after that the neath a test from the or room came to talk to me and asked me, you know what I would like during the surgery, and I said, I don't want anything. I have my nerve block now done. I have my Healing frequencies, it'll drop me into the theta state. That's all I need. He said, You're sure I said, Yeah, I'm sure I said, why. What do people need? You have a nerve block, what else do you need? And he goes, Oh, no, people generally want anesthesia in the ER as well. And I said, Okay, well, I prefer not to. And he said, No problem. I'll be right behind your head in the O R, if you need something, you just let me know. And I said, Great, thank you. And then the O R nurse came to take me into the O R. And she was the only one that gave me a little bit of difficulty about using my phone and my earbuds and my eyemask for the frequencies. As soon as she came to my bed, my bed to wheel me away. She saw that I had them in my hand and she snatched them and said you can't have these in the car. And I said, No, they've been approved. And the other doctor was still there and said they've been approved. They're part of her anesthesia protocol. She's just used them getting her nerve block. And so she's good with them. And so the nurse gave them back to me kind of grumpily and we went into the O R. And when we got into the or the plastic surgeon said hi. And she said How you feeling? I said I'm feeling great because I'm awake and my legs asleep. And that's exactly how I want this to go. And they kind of laughed, and then she said, you know, do you have anything you want to give to me to put to the side? And then the nurse grabbed my things again and said I've been trying to take this off her. And the plastic surgeon said no, no, she's allowed that it's part of her anesthesia protocols. So the nurse had to give it back to me again. And they sent me all up. And I tuned into my sounds my earbuds I put my mask on. I was lying on my side. And I was I was comfortable. In fact they were putting warm blankets on me and pillows and tucking me and I said you know you guys are going to make me so comfortable. I'm never going to want to leave here. And the surgery went without a hitch again. I was listening to my tunes. I heard a phone ring at one point and it was ringing for so long that I started thinking isn't my phone that's ringing. And then somebody answered I heard that Hello, I didn't hear anything more after that other than just a little bit of background noise. And then I heard a goodbye, you know, our brain is tuned to we always say hello, we always say goodbye on the phone. So it could pick up that it couldn't pick up anything else in my theta state that I was in at that point. And when the surgery was over, I thanked the anesthetist. As I was leaving the room, as I was being wheeled out, I said, I just want to thank you. And he goes, what for? I didn't do anything for you today. I said, Yes, you did. You let me do this my way. And I didn't have to have anesthesia, I didn't need it. And I really appreciate that. And of course, I thank the surgeons and everybody else that was in there. And I was taken to a to the discharge area. And at that point, there was another nurse. So this is the ninth person that I was dealing with, who was looking at the computer at the end of my bed. And then she looked at me with a quizzical look. And then she looked back at her computer with the same physical look and went, Wait a minute, you didn't have any anesthesia today. And I said, No, I had a nerve block. I didn't need any anesthesia. And literally until that point, I didn't think that it was any big deal that I hadn't had anesthesia. And she said, I've never seen that before. Everybody has anesthesia, just to get the nerve block. And people have anesthesia for the O R. And I just said I didn't need it. I had my sound frequencies and robbing me into that fader healing state. And I was fine. And she was well, this is the easiest discharge ever, because I don't have to have you sign any waivers, I don't have to give you any documentation, you can literally get dressed and leave. And so I did she did give me or the surgeon came and saw me quickly before I left and just gave me some heads up on some painkillers that she wanted me to be taking and staying ahead of the pain etc. and just explain what kind of pain that I could be expecting as I went through this healing journey now. And I took the painkillers before I left the hospital because I agreed with you know, staying ahead of the pain. And I would say it took two hours to get home. And I would say the last 10 minutes of that drive on the bumpy highway was a little bit painful once I got into my bed, and I was on crutches at this point, because I still had no feeling in my leg. And once I got into my bed, and I had no pain, and I took pain medication again the following morning as instructed. And then when I was supposed to take more at lunchtime I went, I haven't had any pain since the car ride home. I'm just not going to take it. And I didn't take any more pain medication. And I never had any more pain. I did have tingling sensations because they cut nerves and so the nerves have to you know, reconnect etc. So I had tingling sensation for about a month, they said that was normal for up to two months or so. And my wound has healed beautifully. I use my infrared healing pad on it a lot at the very beginning. I was told to elevate it. For the first week a lot. And I did I didn't go skiing. I didn't do any workouts. In fact, I didn't do any jumping on it for four weeks. So I followed all of the surgeons recommendations for
Melissa Deally:expediting my healing. And she when I spoke to her one month later, she I spoke with her two weeks, one month, six weeks and I have one more call with her. She said that clearly I had followed her instructions well, because the fact that I hadn't had any pain, my inflammation was down. I was able to be at this point at four weeks live my life fully. She said that. That was because I followed her instructions to the tee. And kudos to me for having done that. And of course I want to heal, I want to enhance my healing. And so I did that. And she said, not everybody does. And so I just share that because post surgery or when you are getting wellness plans, etc. There's always a reason behind why someone's asking you to do something. And I'm that person that always asks why? Because when I understand the why, then then that motivates me to do it. Right. And so when I was having this conversation with the surgeon, she's explaining all of this to me if she wasn't giving me the why I was asking her the why. So that I could understand it and then be able to prioritize this in my daily life as being something important enough for me to actually change my habits in order to make this happen. And that's what I did. And I am honestly so grateful for this whole experience for so many reasons. One of them is that it it truly has given me the opportunity to use my own tools to come Hall in the network of people that I've been working with over the last nine years and building and to walk my talk even further than I already was. And to now be able to share that with all of you as a source of inspiration, motivation, hope to let you know that you can be empowered in your health, you must be an advocate for yourself. It's okay to ask questions, it's okay to get second opinions, and it's okay to take a little bit of time to do your own research or to reach out to people that can support you and help you on your healing journey. I find our medical system, at least in Canada, means well, however, they rush you through and that rushing puts stress on you. And even last time around, I really felt that rushing when I had the diagnosis, my family doctor wanted to do the surgery to have the melanoma removed from my elbow. And and she wanted to do I think she told me on a Thursday, and she wanted to do it on Monday morning, and I was not even going to be in the province, I was away on a business trip. And I just kind of said, No. Can we just put the brakes on for a minute here. And I called the dermatologist. And he called me back later that evening. And I told him the diagnosis. And I said that my family doctor wanted me to do the surgery on Monday morning that I was going to be in Ottawa, and what are his thoughts on that? And do I really need to do it on Monday, or do I have a little bit of time here. And he said, that's a big surgery, you need that done by a plastic surgeon, you shouldn't have that done by your family doctor. And so I was really grateful that I listened to my instinct. And I asked for a second opinion, instead of just rushing into what was being told to me. And so I want you to know that you can do that too. And it doesn't mean that you do nothing for six months, I didn't do nothing for six months, I learned about I had the actual pathology back from that biopsy on February 1. And my surgery was March 26. So I wasn't stuffing around doing nothing, you know, just wasting time I was taking it very seriously, I was just following my own path at my own time. Rather than being rushed into a process. That didn't feel right. To me. Your intuition will never lead you astray. And if you don't have your own network of healers around you like I do, because you don't work in health and wellness, that's okay. Feel free to reach out to me because I can connect you with all of the people that I have in my world. And I thoroughly enjoy connecting people in need with the people who can help them move forward on their healing journey. And if it isn't me, then whoever I'm connecting to, because I have so many people, I needed more than just myself on my journey. And you will too. And I'm happy to help you find the people that you need that can support you and guide you, and have the tools to help you with your healing. And if you don't have any healing issues right now, as you're listening to this, kudos to you, that's awesome. I love the fact that you're looking after your health and that you are healthy right now. Know this information for when you need it. In fact, start building your network of people around you now so that you have it for if and when you need it. And if you know anybody else that is dealing with a health issue right now, that could benefit from additional support, that is looking at holistic ways to heal. Feel free to share this episode with them, and have them reach out to me and I am happy to connect them with people that can help guide them on their healing journey. So thank you for letting me share my story here. I feel it's really important for people to know because in that moment of getting a diagnosis of fear, we'll jump in. However, if you know one person who's healed, or you are able to go to resources that can support you to step out of the fear state and get into how is this happening for me? And what action steps can I take to move me forward and know that your body is designed to heal, we just need to bring it into balance so that it can do so. And if you are in that place of hope, if you're in that mindset of I can do this. You are going to get through because remember whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. And so I chose to think I can and I hope that you will, too. Thank you for investing this time with me on the don't wait for your wake up call Podcast. I'm so glad You joined in. If you can take two minutes to share this episode with someone who you think can benefit and have a positive impact on their life, that would be wonderful. Please leave a review by going to your favorite podcast listening app, and let me know what you enjoy or would like to hear more of. It will support me in my effort to bring the possibility of natural healing to a wider audience and help disrupt the sick care system we have today and make human health a global priority. Health is your true wealth.