‘Wheels to Heels’ – She Refused Her Prognosis And Healed Herself!

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Imagine getting up every day full of energy is

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if you were in your 20s. Again, what would that be? Like? What

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would that be worth to you? What is your health worth to you?

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Think about it. Your health isn't everything. But without

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it, everything else is nothing. And yet too many of us are

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taking it for granted until something goes wrong. No one

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wakes up hoping to be diagnosed with a disease or chronic

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illness. And yet, we've never been taught how to be proactive

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in our health through our school system, or public health. As a

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I believe it is time this information is made available to

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health for today and all your tomorrow's don't wait for your

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wakeup call.

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Welcome back to another edition of don't wait for your wake up

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call. I am Melissa dealey your host and excited to bring you an

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incredible guest today to share her story of inspiration because

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of course, my theme this month is inspiration. So welcome,

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Tanya, I'm so happy to have you here. Thank you for joining me.

Tonya Joyce: 00:01:27

Oh, thank you so much, Melissa, it's so great to

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be here. And I I think you're a great inspiration to our

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community of women as well, to our whole community, whether you

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be woman or man and everything in between. So thank you for

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having me.

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Well, thank you so much. And I'm just going to

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share a tiny snippet of your story because I really want the

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audience to hear it in your own words. But Tanya is a mother of

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five beautiful children and two young granddaughters and looking

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her like you would never know that looked at her. They are her

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world and she is so grateful to be here with them. And for them

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today as she has experienced not one but two horrendous car

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crashes. Which that just sounds absolutely horrendous, as you've

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said, and but here you are smiling, thriving, don't look

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nearly old enough to have you know, two granddaughters. So

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you've you've clearly done a lot of healing in that time. And I

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would love you to share this story of inspiration with the

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audience. So please take us back to where this started and what

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you've done.

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Thank you. So, to begin, I really would love to

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step forward and say that life is a journey. And we're all on

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this journey of healing from the day we're born, we learn and we

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start in our environment, coming into this world with a blank

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slate. And what you know, some people say what doesn't kill you

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makes you stronger. So I come from a background of trauma

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after trauma from childhood. So in 2012, I had had one previous

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accident in 2010, which put me off work for three months. And

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you know, that was okay, a little bit life changing. I had

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just graduated from university. And I had to walk with a cane go

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to the chiropractor. So I learned a little bit of healing

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from there. But it wasn't completely devastating. I still

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had a job to go back to. But after five and a half years of

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university, I did have to use a cane to go across the stage. It

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was painful to get to go to convocation with that kind of

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injury. But I did it, you know, and I was grateful that I earned

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that degree, but I wish I was walking across the stage and

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dancing across a bit. You know, just like

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wow, and celebrating it right?

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to it. I really wanted to fully celebrated it, but I did it in

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pain. But you know, life happens. So get over that

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hurdle. And I healed from that pretty, pretty good. You know, I

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was still experiencing some pain. And then just as I thought

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things were getting better in 2012 I was back at work,

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thriving, five children, you know, life was going really good

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for me. And I was on my way to becoming a lawyer. I had

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graduated as a criminologist and and I was like, Wow, I'm going

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to go to UBC law, which is in Vancouver, BC. They're a really

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prominent law school, not like the ones back I used. I was

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still on my way there with five children. I was like, wow, life

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is really happening. I was struck by a drunk driver. At

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that moment, I died and came back to life with a completely

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different trajectory. And so it life changed. I spent 18 days in

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the hospital with Multiple musculoskeletal injuries. Pain,

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like I never knew it, I became my children's patient instead of

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their parent. I didn't know how to maneuver in the world as a

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completely broken person, mother, sister, daughter, all of

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these things, I didn't know how to operate in the world, as an

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educated woman. And now as completely reliant on everyone

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around me, I was the one taking care of everyone. And now

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everyone around me was taking care of me. I was advised by the

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doctors, I'd never walk again, I was in a wheelchair. I never

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taught properly again, I had a stutter, I would never return to

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university. All of the goals and dreams that I had for myself,

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were no longer. So what do you do in that situation? You What

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do you do? What does that do to your mindset to

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even hear that kind of prognosis?

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Yeah. And all my life, I had to fight for everything I

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had. I was a single mom before I was married to a man who would

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not participate in the family. He refused. He refused to

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contribute financially, emotionally parentally. He was

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in the house, but he was just a warm body. And the children had

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to step up and take care of everything. So as a mother, what

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do you do? You're injured, and you're watching the world around

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you fall apart. We as women, and I've given this talk before, for

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some who might know me might be listening to this, because I

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will certainly share it on my page. But we as women, we fight

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with every fiber of our being we fight. And when I heard that

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prognosis, I'm like, oh, no, you don't know who you're dealing

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with. Watch me. Know, I got through five years of

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university, five and a half years with five children while

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working full time. Nothing can stop me. But this accident

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stopped me in my tracks. And I had to reevaluate. So honestly,

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your your life changes. And you reevaluate. So that's what I had

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to do. I just want to stop there for a second,

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though, because I'm hearing you saying, and I'm unstoppable. And

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I'm not going to accept this prognosis. And I'm sure that was

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part of you being able to be on this podcast and talk to me

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without a stutter and not be in a wheelchair anymore. Because

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you had a different belief, from what you were being told you

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refuse to take on what you're being told.

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Absolutely. So my whole life, people told me I couldn't

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do this, because I was raised in a trailer park. I couldn't do

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that. Because I was a woman. I wasn't allowed to go to

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university. No one in my family had graduated. University. It

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was all limitation after limitation. I had a baby at 17.

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Oh, you're never going to go anywhere. And you're going to

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remain on income assistance your whole life because you had a

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baby as a teenager. Well, what that did for me, was this power

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rose up inside me. When someone says I can't do something. I get

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this feeling inside me that says, oh, now I'm going to show

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you. And I look for examples of women who have done it before me

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and succeeded. To show me proof that it's possible. Yep. And so

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I live by that value system. If someone has gone through it, and

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succeeded, I too can succeed. So I start looking, it's what we

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call the reticular activation system. Yes. If you put your

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mind to something, and you look for proof and examples of that,

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all of a sudden, you'll start seeing it everywhere, and it'll

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become possible for you. Mm hmm. It's just like,

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like, you know, as on a really basic level. I'd

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never paid attention to Subaru cars before. And then I go and

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buy a new car three years ago, and I went to Toyota that I'd

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had I went to Honda that I'd had and in the same mall was Subaru,

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and I'd never owned a Subaru never paid attention, but I

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ended up buying that car. And then of course, every other car

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on the road is now a Subaru, right? I just saw them

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everywhere. That's exactly what you're talking about here on a

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very simplistic level on him or her You know, spiritual level,

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what I'm hearing you talk about is you were looking for that

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inspiration yourself. And how often is it that we don't think

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we can do something ourselves until we seen that someone else

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can do it? Right? It even came down to, you know, in the

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Olympics and running the mile and whatever it was under

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however many minutes and it was, you know, deemed to be humanly

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impossible, until someone did it. And then all of a sudden,

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everybody else started doing it too, because we saw it was

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possible. So I love that you were looking to others for that

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validation that it could be done, and then challenging

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yourself to say, well, if they can do it, I can do it too. And

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again, stepping into that unstoppable mindset.

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That is exactly what we need to do. Why I became a

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public speaker, because I want to share that with everyone.

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Because if we can come into that mindset, at a younger age in our

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lives, we will start stepping into our power into our gifts

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that were given, thinking of, where's your proof? If you start

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to doubt yourself? Where is your proof that that's not possible

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for you? And go for look for the proof that it is possible. So,

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you know, athletes have it? Do you know when they when they

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practice, like you said the Olympics, you know, who says I

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can't do that? Who told me I can't? Oh, well, I'm going to

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show you that I can.

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But it's very funny that you say that, because

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you know, even with Olympians as people might be thinking, Well,

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I'm not an Olympian. So how is that relevant, but I want to

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share a story of my daughter when she was two or three. And

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she's the January baby, right. So a lot of her friends were

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actually from September, October, November, December the

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year before, so just slightly older grade ahead at school. But

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when I put my, when I put her into swimming lessons by

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herself, she didn't want to jump into the pool from the edge,

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right. But then I put her into the same class with her friend

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that's literally two months older, and they do swimming

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lessons together. And she sees her friend jump in, she just

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takes one look at her go and jumps in. Right. And so for

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quite a few years, I always put her with one of her friends that

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was just slightly older, who was already doing it. And then all

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of a sudden, she could do it too. Right. And it's just proof

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that even in that little two year old, three year old even

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learning to ski, etc. That young, young mind, I think it's

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innately there that we can recognize, oh, what if they can

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do it, I can do it. And somewhere along the way, you

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know, through life, we will beat ourselves up and squash

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ourselves down and start to believe that we can't do things

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just because others can, that we're not good enough, etc. But

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that's all BS. We're all human beings. And we Yes, we all have

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our innate special talents. But if someone else can do it, we

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can do it might take a little bit more practice to get there.

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But we can absolutely do it.

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Yeah. And and one thing I stress like, is to clients to

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people around me, is that when they say I'm not a good singer?

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Well, do you want to be a singer? If they don't want to be

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a singer, okay, it's a moot point. But if you want to be a

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good singer, take lessons. Mm hmm. It is possible for you to

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be a good singer. Do you want to be a singer on stage? Do you

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want to be a recording artists? How good of a singer Do you want

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to be? Anything's possible with practice with intention, with

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dedication. Be the best you can be at anything you put your

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efforts into. Nobody has to be something someone else's dream

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is it's your dream on your terms, by your standards. seek

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out someone who's doing it and follow their example.

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And don't listen to someone who tells you that

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you can't. So on that story, I am guilty of saying I'm not a

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good thing. Because I've heard all of my life. And I love to

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sing. And so I don't really care if I'm not a good singer because

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I'll sing in the car, I'll sing in the shower, or I'll sing

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while I'm doing my workouts because it just brings me joy.

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Right? And, you know, I married my husband after we drove all

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the way across Canada and he let me sing in the car in the

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hallway. He didn't. But but when I was in middle school, every

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year, we had our Christmas concert right and you either

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were in the play or in the choir. And so I didn't want to

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be in in the play I wanted to sing. But the choir teacher

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would always tell me you're not a good enough singer to be in

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the choir. And so I just kept hearing that I wasn't a good

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singer. I didn't want to be a famous singer. But choir was one

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way to be a better singer maybe right? And anyway, somehow,

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every year, I talked myself into the choir because I wanted that

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more than the acting. And so I was in the choir, and I did get

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to sing, but I came away with thinking, I'm not a good singer,

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to your point. And is it my dream? No. So I don't pursue it.

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But how many times have we stopped our dreams, because

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somebody told us we're not good at it, or we can't. And that's

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hard to overcome as well. So I have experience with that, too.

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I do. For example, like when I said, the doctor said, I

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wouldn't walk, I wouldn't talk, I wouldn't even be able to fit

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because I had a brain injury. And still I deal with post

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concussion syndrome, and seizure disorder, and all of these

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things that the labels the diagnoses, because someone's

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wearing a white coat. And because they're a physician,

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it's a prognosis, or a diagnosis of the label of permanent

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disability. These can really weigh on us like a cloak, or

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like an metal armor that is so heavy that we carry it around

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every day. What I challenge people to do is take that armor

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off and say, Okay, I'm going to get a second opinion, I might

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even look in the mirror and take opinion, and challenge myself to

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say, you said I, again, I'm going to do everything I can do

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to be my best self. And challenge myself to see how far

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I can walk. challenge myself to see how many books I can read,

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even if I have to start at watch Jain run it I don't have to own

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that diagnosis, or that prognosis. I can take myself as

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far as I personally can. With what ever I'm dealing with,

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whether it be health, weight, education, occupation, anything

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along, like your science has behind you your guided health

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journey. It's your journey, your health on your terms. So yes, I

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got rid of the wheelchair. I got rid of the walker.

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I love that.

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I started to talk without a stutter. Because I

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practiced every day just like singing. I read my books out

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loud. I exercised the neurons in my brain, which is

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neuroplasticity, to create new synapses. Yeah, to be able to

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challenge myself to get to a point where I could return to

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school. I could return to work, but it takes effort and

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dedication. It's not an easy journey. No. But I now walk in

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heels. I went to Tony Robbins in California to attend Unleash the

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Power Within which crushes your belief systems, which is what

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we're really talking about here. Is, is really getting to the

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heart of why do we believe what we believe in? Who told me that

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it wasn't possible? So I like to call it making the impossible

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possible. Yes, finding examples of who told me it wasn't

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possible. And why should I believe their source? Consider

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the source always? And how can I make it possible for me, in my

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circumstance, so I walked on fire when I was there, and I

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didn't get burned? And I'm like, how is that? For 10,000 people

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that have at the same time as me 10,000 People that get burned?

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How is that possible? And that you think that that was

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phenomenal, but people have been doing it for 1000s of years. It

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is not something outrageous to think about because your mind

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controls the body.

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And your mind is so so powerful. And so I love

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all that you're sharing here because when I work with

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clients, they might come to me with a diagnosis. I may not even

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know what that diagnosis means because I'm not a doctor. And

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the reality is, is that diagnosis doesn't actually

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matter to me in my work, because what I'm looking for is what's

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going on inside the body where the imbalances are so that we

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can rebalance the body because at that point it will heal

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itself. And what I don't love about diagnosis is so often

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people like well, I want a diagnosis. So I finally know

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what's wrong with me. But the diagnosis is actually that label

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and when we focus on the label, we get more of that label.

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Unless we shift our mindset into not taking that diagnosis on

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like you did.

Unknown: 00:19:59

Thank you That's so beautiful of a statement.

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Refusing to own the diagnosis. How about we talk about what's

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right with you? Yes. Do you know when you are balanced,

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nutritionally, psychologically, holistic, holistically. You feel

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better you feel joy, like you're saying says I am enough. Because

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you are enough and health is everything. So when you look at

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health, like, I am a pain educator, I teach bio

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psychosocial pain management, because we want to tune down the

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pain signals that go from your mind to your body. Chronic pain

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does not have to control you, you can control your chronic

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pain, by looking at things in your environment, that

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contribute to what's making your pain scream at you. You don't

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necessarily need a pill, you need a purpose. That's my

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mantra. So when I'm thinking about when I couldn't walk, yes,

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it was painful to walk. But I wanted to walk more than I

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wanted to be in pain. Right Movement is not going to hurt

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you more movement will ease the pain in the long run. So whether

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it be swimming, or going on a bike, or even walking in the

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park with your bare feet on getting that nice nature walk

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and the grounding, benefiting and ground Yes. Whatever it is,

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people think exercising means going to a gym and working out

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next to someone who's running on the treadmill at 120. minute or

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what? Yeah, that's not it. It's on your terms. Absolutely. By my

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business bestie she says there was a lady on the internet, who

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movement to her meant just getting out of bed and moving

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her hand to start with any movement is good movement. Mm

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hmm. When I first had the accident and broke my neck, all

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I could move was my eyes. And it hurt the back of my neck soul

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that. But the physiotherapist told me just move your eyes side

Unknown: 00:22:17

to side for two minutes at a time. And what it did was it

Unknown: 00:22:22

exercise the muscles of the back of my neck, we'd be surprised at

Unknown: 00:22:26

how gentle specific movements create change. And you got to

Unknown: 00:22:34

start somewhere.

Melissa Deally: 00:22:36

Absolutely. And it's always the baby steps, you

Melissa Deally: 00:22:39

don't want to just start with something massive, because that

Melissa Deally: 00:22:42

can cause further damage or further pain. And then that gets

Melissa Deally: 00:22:47

you stuck again. But if you start with a little baby steps,

Melissa Deally: 00:22:50

even if there's a little bit of pain, that's a baby step that

Melissa Deally: 00:22:54

you can tolerate. That allows you to build strength and build

Melissa Deally: 00:22:58

that muscle so that you can do more.

Unknown: 00:23:01

Absolutely. And that's so beautiful. Like life will

Unknown: 00:23:05

tell us when we're on the right track. Just like you said, with

Unknown: 00:23:08

balancing your health, your body will tell you if you're eating

Unknown: 00:23:12

the wrong, wrong nutritional things for your body. It

Unknown: 00:23:16

actually screams at you as heartburn. If you get

Unknown: 00:23:20

gastrointestinal pain, gallbladder attacks, you listen

Unknown: 00:23:25

to your body say I wonder what my body's trying to tell me. And

Unknown: 00:23:29

actually listen,

Melissa Deally: 00:23:30

I'm always sharing that, right? Because

Melissa Deally: 00:23:33

we're rushing through life. And so often we just don't slow down

Melissa Deally: 00:23:37

to listen just because of societal norms of do more, do

Melissa Deally: 00:23:40

more and these expectations and we're raising families and, you

Melissa Deally: 00:23:44

know, but look at you, you were had five children and going to

Melissa Deally: 00:23:46

university and everything else, right? When we slow down and

Melissa Deally: 00:23:50

listen to what our body's telling us. We can actually hear

Melissa Deally: 00:23:54

it, and then know what to do. And the other thing is to know

Melissa Deally: 00:23:59

that these symptoms are our body asking us to do something

Melissa Deally: 00:24:02

differently. They're not simply just, hey, I'm getting old. Hey,

Melissa Deally: 00:24:06

I've got seasonal allergies, hey, I've got bad genes, and

Melissa Deally: 00:24:09

we'll just ignore it. Right? They're actually our body asking

Melissa Deally: 00:24:13

us to do something differently and take different action.

Unknown: 00:24:17

Absolutely. And that is the benefit of incorporating a

Unknown: 00:24:21

health educator into your life and incorporating other voices

Unknown: 00:24:28

that are going to show you to help you grow. self care is so

Unknown: 00:24:32

important in our lives today that a lot of people go go go,

Unknown: 00:24:37

and then they get that wake up call. You know, and they're

Unknown: 00:24:41

wondering, what happened. I was doing everything right. I don't

Unknown: 00:24:45

know where this is coming from. But if you actually stop and

Unknown: 00:24:48

listen and say, Actually, I do know where this is coming. And

Unknown: 00:24:54

you can see it like a red flag waving over your whole entire

Unknown: 00:24:58

universe. If I was only listening, if I only stopped and

Unknown: 00:25:04

slowed down, when's the last time I sat at my table, and

Unknown: 00:25:09

allowed my body to digest a meal? When is the last time I

Unknown: 00:25:14

dipped my toes in the sand, and spent some time enjoying my own

Unknown: 00:25:18

company? Do you know these things are so important, I'm 53

Unknown: 00:25:23

years old. And people say, Oh, you look like you're in your

Unknown: 00:25:29

early 40s. Or no, I have respect for my body. I have respect for

Unknown: 00:25:37

my environment, I have respect for the relationships I have. I

Unknown: 00:25:42

have respect for the people I choose to associate with.

Unknown: 00:25:47

Because you are who you keep company with you are, who you

Unknown: 00:25:51

feed your mind. You are who you feed your body, you are who you

Unknown: 00:25:57

put into every realm of your environment. And when you pay

Unknown: 00:26:01

attention to that, your body doesn't go into dis ease.

Melissa Deally: 00:26:05

I agree 100%. And I'm also 53 years old. So

Unknown: 00:26:09

there you go. I wouldn't have known that.

Melissa Deally: 00:26:12

Same thing. People say that to me all the

Melissa Deally: 00:26:14

time. And I tell my clients that I feel as good or better than I

Melissa Deally: 00:26:19

did in my 30s or 20s. Because I've learned how to do this,

Melissa Deally: 00:26:24

I've learned how to take care of my body, how to create a body

Melissa Deally: 00:26:28

that's inhospitable to disease. And now that I know that I want

Melissa Deally: 00:26:32

to share it with the world too, because why not? I didn't grow

Melissa Deally: 00:26:36

up learning it. I when I was in the corporate world, I didn't

Melissa Deally: 00:26:38

know it. It wasn't until I had that shift in my life of being

Melissa Deally: 00:26:42

let go. And then figuring out what am I going to do next. And

Melissa Deally: 00:26:45

finding my way into health coaching, that I started to

Melissa Deally: 00:26:49

learn this, and how powerful it is when we choose to take

Melissa Deally: 00:26:53

proactive action in our health, and how quickly the body

Melissa Deally: 00:26:56

responds when we create an environment for it to heal, and

Melissa Deally: 00:27:00

how amazing you feel. And I love to ask my clients, just how good

Melissa Deally: 00:27:04

are you willing to allow yourself to

Unknown: 00:27:05

feel? Will that look for you? Mm hmm. If you can walk

Unknown: 00:27:13

upstairs without running out of breath? Yes, you can stand and

Unknown: 00:27:18

cook a meal and sit and enjoy it. Yes. When when you don't

Unknown: 00:27:23

have to rush to grab a meal on your way. When you get up on the

Unknown: 00:27:29

first alarm of your phone, or better yet, when you get up

Unknown: 00:27:34

without setting an alarm, because your body is so

Unknown: 00:27:36

responsive to the messages, you feed it. Those things are really

Unknown: 00:27:41

important, because then you are in total control of your life.

Unknown: 00:27:46

Things happen that are out of your control. like car

Unknown: 00:27:50

accidents, like Ill like, I think illness A lot of times is

Unknown: 00:27:54

within our control to certain extent of what we can do. I

Unknown: 00:27:58

agree. Yeah. And there are some things that arguably are out of

Unknown: 00:28:03

our control, you know, things going on around the world and

Unknown: 00:28:06

things like that. But things we can't change we should not busy

Unknown: 00:28:10

our minds with exactly,

Melissa Deally: 00:28:12

you know, dress because it's out of our control.

Melissa Deally: 00:28:15

And when we feel out of control that just adds to our stress. So

Melissa Deally: 00:28:18

those are the times when we really need to choose to focus

Melissa Deally: 00:28:20

on what we can control and bring ourselves down to that place so

Melissa Deally: 00:28:24

we can release that stress.

Unknown: 00:28:26

Absolutely. And that is a real, it takes practice. It

Unknown: 00:28:30

really does to unbusy your mind, one of one of my mentors and the

Unknown: 00:28:34

authors that I I have read a lot of his material. Jon Kabat Zinn

Unknown: 00:28:39

is really good with that teaching that the art of doing

Unknown: 00:28:43

nothing. mindfulness strategies that that helped me with because

Unknown: 00:28:47

my mind was always racing, and oh my gosh, I've got to do this.

Unknown: 00:28:51

I've got to do that. I've got it. Who said so? Who said I

Unknown: 00:28:56

choose? Right? Yes, I have to show up at work on time. Yes, I

Unknown: 00:29:01

have to keep my commitments because I have integrity. But

Unknown: 00:29:04

really do a value check with yourself. When I book this, how

Unknown: 00:29:11

important is it to me? Am I overextending myself? Do Am I

Unknown: 00:29:17

surrounding myself with people that I choose to be associating

Unknown: 00:29:21

with, and really book yourself wisely so that you can have the

Unknown: 00:29:25

integrity to be there. Those things are important.

Melissa Deally: 00:29:30

They are and it comes back to two little words

Melissa Deally: 00:29:34

that we so often use the wrong way. And that's yes and no. And

Melissa Deally: 00:29:39

when we ask ourselves those questions, we might feel a whole

Melissa Deally: 00:29:42

lot more comfortable saying no. When we say no to others, we're

Melissa Deally: 00:29:47

saying yes to ourselves. And that's learned too because so

Melissa Deally: 00:29:52

many of us are raised to say yes and help everyone else all the

Melissa Deally: 00:29:55

time. And that was definitely me. And learning to say no To

Melissa Deally: 00:30:00

others allows us to say yes to ourselves and be in integrity,

Melissa Deally: 00:30:04

and be able to find the time to create a self care routine

Unknown: 00:30:10

for ourselves. I agree wholeheartedly, like I go

Unknown: 00:30:14

through this little checklist, why am I doing this? Do do my

Unknown: 00:30:19

values align with the person I'm meeting with? You know, I never

Unknown: 00:30:25

do anything based on money. That's my first response. Yeah.

Unknown: 00:30:31

Am I meeting with this person? Like, I even do this with

Unknown: 00:30:34

clients? Am I meeting with this person, because I truly believe

Unknown: 00:30:39

that my skills, attributes and values align with what they're

Unknown: 00:30:42

seeking, or should I recommend them to another coach,

Unknown: 00:30:46

psychologist or otherwise? Because when we do that, we're

Unknown: 00:30:51

in alignment with our authenticity. And that is so

Unknown: 00:30:55

important to me. And so I really go through a checklist, when I'm

Unknown: 00:31:00

going to make a decision, it's the decision making matrix. Do

Unknown: 00:31:04

you know, and that is part of self care. It's like when I show

Unknown: 00:31:09

up for work every day, because I do work as a financial aid

Unknown: 00:31:12

worker with the Ministry of Social Development during the

Unknown: 00:31:15

day, because I choose to be there for people in a way that I

Unknown: 00:31:20

can assist them during the day. And I do speaking on my days

Unknown: 00:31:25

off, because I have days off as well, I show up for others in

Unknown: 00:31:28

the community, because pain education is important to me. So

Unknown: 00:31:32

that I can maybe offer something that someone hasn't considered

Unknown: 00:31:35

for them to be their best selves, and build their toolbox

Unknown: 00:31:39

to wellness. And so it's important for me to share my

Unknown: 00:31:43

journey to be there for others so that they can see

Unknown: 00:31:46

possibility.

Melissa Deally: 00:31:47

Exactly, I was just gonna say, because you

Melissa Deally: 00:31:49

become their inspiration, just as you sought to find someone

Melissa Deally: 00:31:53

else who done it as your inspiration. You can now do that

Melissa Deally: 00:31:57

for others. And everything happens for a reason. Right? And

Melissa Deally: 00:32:02

the fact that you've been able to go from wheels to heels,

Melissa Deally: 00:32:06

which I absolutely love. And, you know, we hear of these

Melissa Deally: 00:32:11

stories, but there's so few and far between, right, that for

Melissa Deally: 00:32:17

some people, they might feel like, well, you know, there's

Melissa Deally: 00:32:19

only a few people that have ever done that. And that's not me.

Melissa Deally: 00:32:23

But the reality is, is if you're going to have that attitude that

Melissa Deally: 00:32:25

that's not me, then no, you're not going to be able to achieve

Melissa Deally: 00:32:28

that. But if you instead step into really understanding your

Melissa Deally: 00:32:33

story, and being inspired by it, and knowing that, well, if she

Melissa Deally: 00:32:37

can do it, I can do it, too. That's where you can do it.

Unknown: 00:32:43

That's what I hope for others.

Melissa Deally: 00:32:45

I love that you're sharing it, because it is

Melissa Deally: 00:32:48

so so powerful.

Unknown: 00:32:50

I really appreciate that. It is important to show up

Unknown: 00:32:55

for others. That is my purpose. That is my passion. And it's

Unknown: 00:33:02

truly why I started doing what I do rather than becoming a

Unknown: 00:33:06

lawyer. Yeah. Because I thought, hmm, enter into an adversarial

Unknown: 00:33:12

system, where it's whoever can argue better. Or, or teach

Unknown: 00:33:19

people through my journey. Mm hmm. And, you know, what, it

Unknown: 00:33:24

wasn't that hard of a decision.

Melissa Deally: 00:33:27

is truly which is more powerful, right? Yes.

Melissa Deally: 00:33:31

Which serves humanity more, which is more, you know, brings

Melissa Deally: 00:33:37

you more joy, which is more fulfilling for you, right? That

Melissa Deally: 00:33:42

adversarial arguments situation, you know, that can create a lot

Melissa Deally: 00:33:46

of, you know, angst in your body, which can actually lead to

Melissa Deally: 00:33:49

further health issues, right. Whereas sharing something that

Melissa Deally: 00:33:54

you love, and that you're passionate about, in that place

Melissa Deally: 00:33:58

of giving to others. There's no angst that doesn't cause disease

Melissa Deally: 00:34:02

in your body that allows for continued healing and continued

Melissa Deally: 00:34:06

self care and being able to live in that place of love and joy.

Melissa Deally: 00:34:10

Absolutely.

Unknown: 00:34:12

I love that I was able to reach them to work in a

Unknown: 00:34:15

position that I love doing. Mm hmm. I love showing up with

Unknown: 00:34:20

compassion, or people that are considered dispensable. Yeah,

Unknown: 00:34:26

you know, and I feel like I was put in that position for a

Unknown: 00:34:30

reason. Because I've seen what it's like to be discarded. I

Unknown: 00:34:35

grew up in a trailer park in Kamloops. My parents struggled

Unknown: 00:34:39

my whole life. And I wanted to break the generational groups.

Unknown: 00:34:44

So I did. And now I'm on this side of the counter, but I can

Unknown: 00:34:50

relate to the other side. Yes. And I'm blessed to be in that

Unknown: 00:34:54

position. I'm blessed to be a pain educator.

Melissa Deally: 00:34:58

Again in that position you're showing Showing

Melissa Deally: 00:35:00

them, it's possible. And they don't have to accept the way

Melissa Deally: 00:35:05

they were raised as being all they can ever achieve, that

Melissa Deally: 00:35:09

there's so much more, because you've, you're showing them that

Melissa Deally: 00:35:12

every day.

Unknown: 00:35:13

Yes, and thank you. It's, we can go from the

Unknown: 00:35:17

corporate world. But I also understand that when your life

Unknown: 00:35:22

is in the hands of someone else, you can be let go at any time.

Unknown: 00:35:28

Like I said, you know, and then what. So I choose to be an

Unknown: 00:35:34

entrepreneur, and an employee, and volunteer in my community.

Unknown: 00:35:40

Because my children have started their own lives now, my youngest

Unknown: 00:35:44

is 18, they don't need me as much. So I can have good work

Unknown: 00:35:49

business life balance on my terms. So now I get to do the

Unknown: 00:35:56

things that I really, truly love to do in life, enjoy my

Unknown: 00:36:00

grandchildren, enjoy education, enjoy work. And when you're

Unknown: 00:36:06

living in your power, and by your choice on your terms, life

Unknown: 00:36:12

is joyful, life is beautiful. And I can control my pain by

Unknown: 00:36:18

just living in power. Mm hmm.

Melissa Deally: 00:36:21

And when you're living in power, whatever you're

Melissa Deally: 00:36:24

doing as your work, doesn't feel like work in that negative sense

Melissa Deally: 00:36:29

of work, right? It's like, Yay, I get to show up and do this

Melissa Deally: 00:36:32

every day, further, allowing you to live in that place of joy.

Melissa Deally: 00:36:37

But how many people out there today are disengaged in their

Melissa Deally: 00:36:40

work and hate their job and are, you know, counting down the

Melissa Deally: 00:36:43

hours and days and months to retirement? Too many. And you

Melissa Deally: 00:36:48

know, through this pandemic, we're kind of at that place of

Melissa Deally: 00:36:51

the great resignation. And so many people that, you know,

Melissa Deally: 00:36:54

build a life working at home and improve their life as a result

Melissa Deally: 00:36:57

of it, you know, going for walks in the middle of the day with

Melissa Deally: 00:37:00

their husband, or having more time with their children,

Melissa Deally: 00:37:03

because they don't have to commute two hours a day. And now

Melissa Deally: 00:37:06

saying, I don't want to go back to work, and quitting their jobs

Melissa Deally: 00:37:10

to find jobs that allow them to still work from home or starting

Melissa Deally: 00:37:14

businesses, etc, etc. Because people have had that experience

Melissa Deally: 00:37:18

shift forced upon them for long enough that they figured out a

Melissa Deally: 00:37:23

way to make it a better life. And I'm actually really enjoying

Melissa Deally: 00:37:28

seeing that happen. And I'm really proud of the companies

Melissa Deally: 00:37:31

that are adapting to that and recognizing that if they have

Melissa Deally: 00:37:34

happy employees, that their business is going to thrive,

Melissa Deally: 00:37:38

versus the companies that say, Nope, it's over, you have to

Melissa Deally: 00:37:40

come back to work. Right? They're not going to thrive.

Unknown: 00:37:44

I wholeheartedly agree with, you know, Richard Branson,

Unknown: 00:37:48

who runs the Virgin empire? He says employees first, yes, it

Unknown: 00:37:52

should be, and you'll have better customer service, you

Unknown: 00:37:55

will have better retention, you know, if your labor force is

Unknown: 00:37:59

your biggest expense, it makes sense to invest in? Yes. Do you

Unknown: 00:38:05

know I? Oh, my goodness, we could, I could literally talk to

Unknown: 00:38:09

you all day, because I have the same value system.

Melissa Deally: 00:38:14

And that statement that you've just said,

Melissa Deally: 00:38:16

so perfectly relates to our health as well, right? If you

Melissa Deally: 00:38:20

see your health as your greatest asset, it makes sense to invest

Melissa Deally: 00:38:25

in it. Right? You know, our house, people think of their

Melissa Deally: 00:38:27

houses their greatest asset or their car, well, we invest in

Melissa Deally: 00:38:30

our house, we vacuum and clean and fix things when they're

Melissa Deally: 00:38:33

broken and renovate. And we take our car for oil changes and

Melissa Deally: 00:38:37

services on a regular basis, so it doesn't break down. But what

Melissa Deally: 00:38:40

are we doing to be proactive in the same way in our health? Not

Melissa Deally: 00:38:45

enough in most cases, because we don't have a mindset that our

Melissa Deally: 00:38:47

health is our greatest asset yet. Because we've been raised

Melissa Deally: 00:38:52

to believe we don't have to worry about our health. If we

Melissa Deally: 00:38:54

get sick, we'll just go to the doctor and they'll make us

Melissa Deally: 00:38:56

better. And that's their problem, not ours. But our

Melissa Deally: 00:38:59

health truly is our responsibility. And as you've

Melissa Deally: 00:39:03

learned that the decisions we make around our health will

Melissa Deally: 00:39:09

drive our health outcomes.

Unknown: 00:39:13

Most definitely. And, you know, a pan BC, which is

Unknown: 00:39:17

nonprofit organization, and you see the education series that

Unknown: 00:39:21

they're putting out there is really engaging patients to be

Unknown: 00:39:27

their primary caregiver. I love that your house? Yes, exactly.

Unknown: 00:39:33

Take care of your house. You don't know how to repair your

Unknown: 00:39:37

house. Call an expert. Yes, exactly. Oh, an educator. Yes,

Unknown: 00:39:45

yes. specialists call them call the plumber. Follow the roofer

Unknown: 00:39:50

over whatever you need to do but educate yourself. You will save

Unknown: 00:39:56

yourself in the long run. Not necessarily what is

Unknown: 00:40:00

prescriptions are so expensive. But this is why, you know, I

Unknown: 00:40:04

really strongly, strongly suggest to choose purpose over

Unknown: 00:40:08

appeal. Yes. Because when you have a purpose and joy, you

Unknown: 00:40:13

really start to make changes through pursuing that

Unknown: 00:40:16

fulfillment. And you make changes and you start to pay

Unknown: 00:40:20

attention to when you feel your best self. Mm hmm. You know, and

Unknown: 00:40:25

the more that we can get that message out there through your

Unknown: 00:40:27

podcast, through through education through public

Unknown: 00:40:31

speaking through awareness through the Wake Up Calls, one

Unknown: 00:40:34

of my friend calls it the feather the brick the semi.

Melissa Deally: 00:40:37

Yep, that's Jessica. I learned that from

Melissa Deally: 00:40:40

Jessica. And I guess all I use, I use the feather the brick and

Melissa Deally: 00:40:43

the wrecking ball. But yes,

Unknown: 00:40:46

my friend Remar Remar, Rasmus, she, she taught that to

Unknown: 00:40:50

me, and then I taught it to Jessica, and it just spreads

Unknown: 00:40:54

through the, our community. Yeah, the universe will give you

Unknown: 00:40:58

a little feather, you might get a little cough. And then if

Unknown: 00:41:01

you're still not listening to the habits that you have, it'll

Unknown: 00:41:04

give you a break. And then in my case, that hit me with a

Unknown: 00:41:08

LinkedIn.

Melissa Deally: 00:41:11

That's the wrecking wall, right?

Unknown: 00:41:13

It'll tell you, you're on the wrong path. Listen,

Unknown: 00:41:17

listen, listen, your body's gonna tell you you're, it's

Unknown: 00:41:20

screaming at you. Do you know, if you constantly have digestive

Unknown: 00:41:25

issues? I recommend that they call you or call me or call

Unknown: 00:41:29

Jessica, you know, like, seriously, reach out to someone

Unknown: 00:41:33

who has done the research or has the lived experience. If you

Unknown: 00:41:36

don't think it's possible for you reach out to one of us in

Unknown: 00:41:40

your community that has really done the work to show you that

Unknown: 00:41:44

it's possible for you. Yep. Because we made we all have made

Unknown: 00:41:50

the impossible possible. Career wise, health wise, recovery

Unknown: 00:41:57

wise, life wise, when trauma hits you? How long are you going

Unknown: 00:42:03

to drink the poison expecting someone else to die? Yep.

Unknown: 00:42:07

Healing is possible. It doesn't change what happened. You know,

Unknown: 00:42:13

I was hit by a drunk driver. They're like, Oh, my gosh, do

Unknown: 00:42:16

you hate him? Now? I'm like, No. Do you think he got in that car

Unknown: 00:42:19

and then intentionally just grabbed his car and threw it at

Unknown: 00:42:22

me? No, I choose to be joyful. I choose to walk in heels, I

Unknown: 00:42:28

choose to not let my past dictate my present or my future.

Unknown: 00:42:33

I choose to share my story, period.

Melissa Deally: 00:42:37

And choosing to be joyful, allows your body and

Melissa Deally: 00:42:41

cells to be vibrating at a higher level and allows for

Melissa Deally: 00:42:44

health versus choosing to be hateful and bitter. That brings

Melissa Deally: 00:42:47

you down and again keeps that angst inside you that causes

Melissa Deally: 00:42:52

disease down the path. Right? And, you know, on this health

Melissa Deally: 00:42:56

journey, I also want to share exactly what you said at the

Melissa Deally: 00:42:58

very beginning, get a second opinion. Right, you are your you

Melissa Deally: 00:43:02

know, you said primary practice, you know, be your own primary

Melissa Deally: 00:43:05

practitioner, I love to say your own best doctor, because you've

Melissa Deally: 00:43:08

lived in your body your whole life. So if you think

Melissa Deally: 00:43:10

something's wrong, if you're trying to listen to the symptoms

Melissa Deally: 00:43:12

and trying to understand them, and somebody is telling you,

Melissa Deally: 00:43:15

there's nothing wrong with you, where they've given you a

Melissa Deally: 00:43:17

diagnosis that you don't think is right. Again, you don't have

Melissa Deally: 00:43:21

to take that on, you can get a second opinion. You can find

Melissa Deally: 00:43:25

other people that can support you in this journey.

Unknown: 00:43:30

Most definitely. And I love that we're all have the

Unknown: 00:43:33

same mindset. Because like you said, You've lived in your body

Unknown: 00:43:37

your whole life. But I will say if you look for something,

Unknown: 00:43:40

you'll find something.

Melissa Deally: 00:43:41

Yes. And that's where Dr. Google is terrible.

Melissa Deally: 00:43:43

And I tell people to stay off it. Don't self diagnose, because

Melissa Deally: 00:43:48

anybody can self diagnose on Dr. Google that they're going to die

Melissa Deally: 00:43:51

in the next 36 hours. Yes, right. And wake up. I've had

Melissa Deally: 00:43:57

clients call me in a panic, right? Because they've started a

Melissa Deally: 00:44:00

protocol and their bodies, you know, had a reaction to it, and

Melissa Deally: 00:44:03

then they're freaking out. And they're all you know, on on Dr.

Melissa Deally: 00:44:07

Google, and now they're gonna die in 36 hours. And I have to

Melissa Deally: 00:44:12

talk them down and calm them down and ask them not to go

Melissa Deally: 00:44:15

looking on the internet again. And and you know, they're still

Melissa Deally: 00:44:18

here, months, a month later. Right. And all we had to do was

Melissa Deally: 00:44:22

just adjust a few things. Right? And, yeah, so self diagnosis is

Melissa Deally: 00:44:28

never a great idea. Definitely seek help of practitioners and

Melissa Deally: 00:44:32

people that are, you know, trained that can guide you and

Melissa Deally: 00:44:34

help you. But it's a journey and it's in partnership, because you

Melissa Deally: 00:44:39

still are your own best doctor, and you know what's best for

Melissa Deally: 00:44:43

you. When you have the guidance of someone that can kind of show

Melissa Deally: 00:44:47

you this particular path because you haven't been on it before so

Melissa Deally: 00:44:50

you don't know that part. But once you get started, you know

Melissa Deally: 00:44:54

it's best for you.

Unknown: 00:44:57

I will say learn to say no. If you Meet someone that

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doesn't resonate with you. Absolutely. Thank you. But no.

Unknown: 00:45:04

If there's no problem in saying no, say yes to you, because it's

Unknown: 00:45:09

your health journey. Yeah, if someone doesn't resonate with

Unknown: 00:45:12

you choose someone else.

Melissa Deally: 00:45:15

Absolutely, I 100% agree. So as we wrap up

Melissa Deally: 00:45:19

here, I've loved this conversation, as you said, we

Melissa Deally: 00:45:21

could talk for hours, we could do a whole other episode. But

Melissa Deally: 00:45:24

you've mentioned this a few times, of course, the episode,

Melissa Deally: 00:45:27

the podcast name is don't wait for your wake up call. So what

Melissa Deally: 00:45:30

does that mean to you here? Now, in this moment,

Unknown: 00:45:34

you don't change what you're doing today. I want you

Unknown: 00:45:39

to think about, for me, I thought about where will I be in

Unknown: 00:45:42

a year, if I stay the same in the wheelchair? Where will I be

Unknown: 00:45:48

where my wherever my children be, more importantly, if I

Unknown: 00:45:51

didn't do the work, so I really had to evaluate. So my wake up

Unknown: 00:45:57

call was, I'm not going to be stuck in this bed. For me, it

Unknown: 00:46:03

was, I'm going to use every thing in my toolbox. And look at

Unknown: 00:46:09

everything possible to prove the doctors wrong. So my wake up

Unknown: 00:46:15

call was the universe, my Creator, didn't want me to be a

Unknown: 00:46:20

lawyer. I was on the wrong trajectory. So I am a healer, in

Unknown: 00:46:28

the sense of, I'm my own healer. And I'm here to guide people

Unknown: 00:46:34

down the path to becoming their own healer. Because I think none

Unknown: 00:46:39

of us are healers in that sense of the word. I don't like the

Unknown: 00:46:42

word, but we are our own healers, when we listen to our

Unknown: 00:46:45

bodies. So my wake up call was, I wasn't supposed to be a

Unknown: 00:46:50

lawyer. And this whole experience I hold nothing better

Unknown: 00:46:55

because it was meant to be. And I am so blessed that I gained

Unknown: 00:47:01

the gifts that I did through it, because it showed me just how

Unknown: 00:47:05

strong I can be and other people will learn from my journey of

Unknown: 00:47:09

wheels to heels. I love it.

Melissa Deally: 00:47:13

And you have a book with that title as well. So

Melissa Deally: 00:47:17

how can people get hold of your book and learn, you know, go

Melissa Deally: 00:47:20

deeper into your story and be further inspired? Because we're

Melissa Deally: 00:47:22

just touching the surface here? And how can they get hold of you

Melissa Deally: 00:47:26

as well? Okay,

Unknown: 00:47:27

so I'm not quite finished writing the book

Unknown: 00:47:29

because I keep revising it. Actually, she didn't want me to

Unknown: 00:47:34

write it because she was very proud. And she thought that my

Unknown: 00:47:38

story would just traumatize people. And so trigger morning

Unknown: 00:47:43

when you read the book, but I do put that in the foreword. So by

Unknown: 00:47:46

the summer, we should have it released on Amazon. And so but

Unknown: 00:47:50

people can get a hold of me on my website, which is www dot

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guided path wellness.com. Or you can email me at Tanya teal and

Unknown: 00:48:00

ya at guided path wellness calm. And I am so open to conversation

Unknown: 00:48:08

about pain management, about education, I have been trained

Unknown: 00:48:14

by pain, VC. And I'm also a Tony Robbins Madonna's coach, a lot

Unknown: 00:48:19

of education there, but also lived experience. And I'm always

Unknown: 00:48:23

willing to conversate with people who have chronic pain. So

Unknown: 00:48:27

those two avenues are the best to get a hold of me. We also

Unknown: 00:48:30

have wellness Wednesdays which is tonight where we talk about

Unknown: 00:48:34

chronic pain, joy, how to bring more joy into your life, Jessica

Unknown: 00:48:38

Coulthard and I hold those meetings every Wednesday night,

Unknown: 00:48:41

just to have a conversation with you about your health. So and

Unknown: 00:48:45

what matters to you, and your health journey. So that's about

Unknown: 00:48:49

me and what I do. And if you mentioned this podcast, I will

Unknown: 00:48:55

give you $20 off your session with pain education and pain

Unknown: 00:49:00

management. And I also do personal development consulting.

Unknown: 00:49:03

So if you mentioned that you saw me on Melissa dealies podcast,

Unknown: 00:49:08

you will get $20 off your sessions. So that's the gift I'm

Unknown: 00:49:11

giving to you.

Melissa Deally: 00:49:12

Thank you so much for sharing that gift with

Melissa Deally: 00:49:15

the audience. And I'll make sure all of that is in the show

Melissa Deally: 00:49:17

notes. And you do have a long list of credentials from all of

Melissa Deally: 00:49:22

your ongoing studies, etc, etc. So all of that's in the show

Melissa Deally: 00:49:25

notes for everyone to see as well. And yeah, anybody that's

Melissa Deally: 00:49:30

struggling with chronic pain reach out or if you just want to

Melissa Deally: 00:49:34

be inspired or know someone who's struggling with, you know,

Melissa Deally: 00:49:37

recovery from pain right now, please share this podcast

Melissa Deally: 00:49:40

because it needs to get into the hands of people that need to

Melissa Deally: 00:49:43

hear it. So thank you so much for joining me today. Tanya,

Melissa Deally: 00:49:47

this has been amazing. Just before we leave, please share

Melissa Deally: 00:49:51

one tip with the audience on helping them actually get

Melissa Deally: 00:49:56

started and take action today.

Unknown: 00:49:59

No matter what you're going through, it doesn't

Unknown: 00:50:01

necessarily have to be pain, no matter what you're going

Unknown: 00:50:04

through. If you want to find possibility in your life, seek

Unknown: 00:50:08

out someone who's done it before you and find that it is

Unknown: 00:50:13

possible. I did it, you can do it. Bigger, small, celebrate the

Unknown: 00:50:19

small wins, because they matter to make the impossible possible

Unknown: 00:50:24

for you. Because it was possible for me to achieve small things

Unknown: 00:50:29

and big things by that principle. Anything's possible.

Unknown: 00:50:33

You just have to believe in you. And you matter. I love that.

Melissa Deally: 00:50:38

Well, thank you so much, Tanya, thank you to the

Melissa Deally: 00:50:41

audience for listening. I hope you found this podcast super

Melissa Deally: 00:50:44

inspiring. It is the theme of the month of April 2022. And

Melissa Deally: 00:50:49

thanks for listening and look forward to having you join me

Melissa Deally: 00:50:52

again next time.

Melissa Deally: 00:50:57

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Melissa Deally: 00:51:00

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Melissa Deally: 00:51:04

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