Let Love Make The World Go Around…

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Imagine getting up every day full of energy is

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if you were in your 20s. Again, what would that be? Like?

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What would that be worth to

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you? What is your health worth to you? Think about it. Your

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health isn't everything. But without it, everything else is

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nothing. And yet too many of us are taking it for granted until

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something goes wrong. No one wakes up hoping to be diagnosed

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tomorrow's don't wait for your wakeup call.

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Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call. I am your

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host, Melissa de Li and super excited to be launching a

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another theme this month. February is the month of love.

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And some say money makes the world go around. But I would

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love to see us get to a place where love makes the world go

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around. Because as humans, our deepest emotional need is the

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need to feel love. So I want to ask you to just stop and close

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your eyes. Unless of course you're driving. And think for a

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moment. What does the word love mean to you. And then think

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about how does love feel to you think back to that first kiss

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that feeling of floating the pitter patter of your heart, the

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melting of your insides, the bursting heart, the smile on

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your face, the warmth that spreads throughout your body. Or

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maybe it's not even a romantic kiss. Maybe it's that first kiss

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of your newborn. For the first time your newborn baby looks

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into your aisle eyes and smiles at you with love in their eyes.

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We feel all those same chemical responses in the body. Right

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regardless of what type of love it is. It's it's just maybe

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stronger in some forms than others. But the body is

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responding chemically. And love is one of the highest levels of

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emotions. And it comes with a lightness in our being right we

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feel light, airy, like almost like we're walking on air. And

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above love are in fact joy and then peace. Below love are many

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other emotions, which you will notice get heavier as we move

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down the list. And if we go right towards the bottom of the

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list, we're going to find emotions like anger, fear,

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grief, guilt, and shame is at the very bottom of that list.

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There are other emotions in between. But I really wanted to

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highlight these heavy, heavier emotions for you at the bottom

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of the list knowing that you would understand that heaviness

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that comes with them that feeling in your body of being

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weighed down, bogged down, we are all energy and these

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emotions are energies too. And when we carry around heavy

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energies, it truly does weigh us down, we can feel like we have

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the weight of the world on our shoulders. But when we instead

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enjoy and live in a place of the lighter emotions of love and joy

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and peace, we feel lighter as if we are walking on air. So how do

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we move from one end of that spectrum to the other? Well,

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that's life's journey, right? And all along the way we get to

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make choices. And when we understand this, we can be

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making better choices as we can put our decisions through the

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filter of these lighter emotions and ask ourselves questions such

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as, how would I respond if I were responding from a place of

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love rather than judgment, dislike or disapproval? How can

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I approach this from a place of love? Even difficult situations

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can be approached With love. What does it mean to me right

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now to approach this from love, not fear, or anger. And all of

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this takes practice, right. And it just starts with awareness

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that you can do this, that before you respond to a

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situation, you can stop and just do a little check in and ask

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these questions of yourself. And sometimes it can feel really

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hard to approach situations from a place of love. Because those

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heavier emotions are getting in the way, the anger, the feelings

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of being unfairly treated, judged or hurt, or because of

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past history of feeling, unjustly treated by others in

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general. This happens in family relationships a lot. And perhaps

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you've experienced this when it comes to family holiday

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gatherings, you maybe you're wary of attending because you

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don't want to see that someone who triggers you.

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And you know, they will, because they always say something that

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gets under your skin. And so that makes avoidance one easy

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option, right. And many people want to avoid those scenarios,

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or you go but you go with your backup or you go and you don't

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really want to be there. And so we can start to turn that

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check out the link in the show notes. So there

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are a few steps that you can take here to help you stay in

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alignment with choosing love first. And that first one is

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forgiveness. Now before you react and think why should I

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forgive them, they hurt me, I didn't do anything, this is all

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their fault. I want you to be open to the fact that

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forgiveness is the key to liberation from being a victim.

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Let's say that again. Forgiveness is the key to

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liberation from being a victim. It doesn't make the other person

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right. It doesn't condone their behavior. What it does is it

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puts you back in control of your thoughts and feelings and it

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frees you from the imprisonment of the pain. This is a choice

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that allows you to move forward. Very often we carry these

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painful experiences with us. And the only person that impacts is

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ourselves. The other person doesn't even realize that

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they've heard us or that we are still harboring the pain.

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They've moved on with their lives. But we are stuck in this

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place carrying the pain, resentment avoiding the person

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and more. But when we forgive, we free ourselves from all of

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that, to live our life from a place of love. The second idea

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is to dawn your love bra or love cape for attending events where

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you know, there'll be somebody who triggers you, I love this

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one. The idea is that prior to going to a family event of some

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sort where you know, you will see someone who triggers you,

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you put on your imaginary bright red love bra, or your bright red

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love cape. And this is super powerful as this bra or Cape

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will protect you. You see, only love can enter your body through

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this protective layer. It repels all other emotions back out away

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from you. And only love can come out of your body via this love

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bra and cape. It definitely takes some practice it is a bit

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of a mindset shift. But when you go to the event wearing your

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love bra or your cape with that conscious thought that I will

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only allow love in and I will only allow love out. It makes a

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huge difference in how you can show up at the event. So, as I

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said it takes some practice, but it really does allow you to

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focus on what is important in the moment, which is love and to

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shine that out to me those around you to not only accept

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love in, but allow the love out to all of those around you. I've

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had many clients Dawn their love bras and capes before family

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weddings and head their bravely and report back that the event

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went so much more smoothly than expected. And they enjoyed it

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more than they thought they would. As a result. I even had a

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client one time who told me that she used this over zoom, talking

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to her in laws with her partner. And she had always found that

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her in laws were so critical of her partner. And she was just

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kind of tired of it. And she thought you know what I'm going

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to wear my love brought the Zoom meeting. And I'm only going to

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get let love in and only let love go out towards them. And

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when they started being critical, she just focused on,

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I'm sending them love, I'm sending them love, I'm sending

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them love. And she said it was fascinating because his mum just

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kind of suddenly stopped mid sentence in the middle of being

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critical. And kind of shook her head a little bit and change the

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subject to something a whole lot more positive. And she was just

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blown away. That even over zoom with her focusing on I'm sending

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them love and sending them love that somehow the mum picked up

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on that enough to stop the criticism, change the subject

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into something much more positive. So this is powerful.

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When we send love out into the world, the world can receive it.

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And it can shift how people respond to you. Because you are

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sending them love.

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Avoidance of issues, and avoiding people that trigger us

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just has us carrying around heavier emotions for longer

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bogging down our physical being draining our energy levels, and

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weakening our immune system to almost squash down emotions

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really do weaken our immune system. And so we have to

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instead allow our body to process them and release them.

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And that forgiveness piece is so important for anything that's

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been harbored before. And then for anything new, when we choose

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that place of love. We can in mentally also allow for the

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emotions to be processed, and released. Emotions moving

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through our body move through as a chemical reaction in less than

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90 seconds is what we choose to do with those emotions that can

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get them stuck. So we can be focusing on it so much that the

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chemical reaction has long since ended. But we hold on to the

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memory and squash it down. Or we can release it and say I'm going

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to choose to still show them love even though this is how

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they made me feel. I'm going to forgive them for that. Maybe

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it's having a conversation with them around. This is how it made

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me feel I'm sure you didn't mean it that way. So I must have

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misunderstood you. Maybe that's also a conversation that can be

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had, right? When we can address this from a place of love, or

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release people through forgiveness, or both, we can

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elevate ourselves to a higher energy level. And in doing so we

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feel lighter, calmer, and happier in the process. And the

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more we practice this, the more people we draw into our circle,

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that are functioning at that same high energy level, focusing

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on love, which expands our love circle. And it expands it

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exponentially and results in us living a happier, more joyful

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life. Love truly can make the world go around. As we continue

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to expand our circle and the natural ripple effect that

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happens as a result. As Tony Robbins says, energy flows where

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attention goes. So when we focus on love, the energy of love

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expands and flows in our life. And then you get to feel those

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light happy, warm, joyful feelings all the time.

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So now that you understand the energies of love, let's talk

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about the love languages. As these matter in how you relate

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Build relationships, relationships with those you

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love the most. So this is the work of Gary Chapman. For those

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of you watching on YouTube, I'm holding up his book here. It's

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called The Five Love Languages. And the five love languages are

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words of affirmation, or quality time, or receiving gifts, or

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acts of service, or physical touch. So, we all have some of

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these within us, you might be thinking, My like words of

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affirmation, but I also like receiving gifts. Or maybe you're

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the person that says I love physical touch. And I like

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quality time, right? So you can definitely be more than one you

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can have several of these types of love languages within you.

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But you generally have one primary language and

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understanding your own primary language. And that of your

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partner is very helpful, because your partner's love language

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might be completely different to yours. And if you're showing

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your love for them, based on your own love language, it may

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not be as meaningful to them. For instance, if you love

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receiving gifts, but they want words of affirmation, and you're

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buying them gifts, that's not speaking to them in their love

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language, right. And so understanding this is really,

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really important. Someone else might be have acts of service as

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number one on their list. And yours is receiving gifts, and

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you're giving them gifts, really, they would just much

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rather help with laundry and the dishes, right the acts of

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service. So this is really powerful information to have and

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to understand because of course, we all come from different

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backgrounds and our love languages are impacted by how we

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were raised as children. And it doesn't just relate to romantic

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partners either, but it does relate to your relationships

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with your kids, even friends, colleagues, etc. And so I'll put

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a link in the show notes so that you can go online and do the

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quiz from the book in order to determine the love languages of

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your whole family. So have fun discovering your love languages,

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donning your love bra or your love cape, and finding every

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opportunity to lead with your heart and come from a place of

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love, lightness, happiness and joy. On my next show, I'm

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interviewing a relationship expert as we dive into romantic

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love. So until next time, I'm sending you love. And thank you

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very much for listening.

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