Episode 68

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28th May 2022

Give Yourself Permission To Play! | Ep 68

In this last episode of my “play” theme, Deb King of “The Wisdom Playground” and I discuss ditching your B.C. (Before Covid) ways of doing things and instead choosing to step into doing this differently, designing the life you want to live, a life that includes more play, more fun, more ease! Deb shares her journey to becoming what she dubs a “Happiness Ambassador” and “Human Enthusiast” and her last 20 years as a transformational life coach. She specializes in working with coaches and creating collaborations that will allow everyone to rise together, supporting each other in this new world order. Tune in to learn how you can start to create this transformation in your own life.

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 About the Guest:

Deb King is the Co-Founder of The Wisdom Playground, a new era business incubator that supports Coaches and Healers to create greater ease, profit, and impact.

Deb describes herself as a 'Happiness Ambassador' and enthusiastic human, with a passion for music, travel, life, people, and all things uplifting! Her unconventional career includes being a bouncer and nightclub manager in London, through to other leadership, sales, and marketing roles, and across the past 20 years has coached, mentored, and trained thousands of people globally, as a transformational master coach in Australia. 

 

Linktree https://linktr.ee/debking

LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/debking-happiness-coach/

FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BestPossibleFuture

Insta: https://instagram.com/thewisdomplayground

 

Finding your passion/purpose and making it fun and playful is where we find success in life and of course have you tell your story of why you are building the Wisdom Playground and sharing any upcoming programs you have on offer.

About the Host:

Melissa is an Integrative Health Practitioner helping people get to the root cause of their health issues.  Melissa neither diagnoses nor cures but helps bring your body back into balance by helping discover your “toxic load” and then removing the toxins. Melissa offers functional medicine lab testing that helps you “see inside” to know exactly what is going on, and then provides a personalized wellness protocol using natural herbs and supplements.   Melissa’s business is 100% virtual – the lab tests are mailed directly to your home and she specializes in holding your hand and guiding the way to healing so that you don’t have to figure it all out on your own. 

Melissa is the winner of the 2021 Quality Care Award by Business From The Heart and is also the recipient of the Alignable “Local Business Person of the Year “Award 2022 for Whistler. 

Melissa has been featured at a number of Health & Wellness Summits, such as the Health, Wealth & Wisdom Summit, The Power To Profit Summit, The Feel Fan-freaking-tas-tic Summit, the Aim Higher Summit, and many more!  She has also guested on over 60 different podcasts teaching people about the importance of prioritizing our health and how to get get started. 

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Transcript
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wake up call.

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Welcome back. Melissa, Delia here the host of the don't wait

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for your wake up call podcast and I'm excited to bring you

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another wonderful guest today. Today I'm introducing you to Deb

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king of the wisdom playground. Welcome, Deb.

Deb King:

Thank you, Melissa. So excited to be here.

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Though, as you can probably hear her lovely

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Australian accent. It's very early in her morning as we're

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recording this episode. So extra special. Thanks for being here.

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And Deb is the co founder of the wisdom playground a new era

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business incubator that supports coaches and healers to create

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greater ease, profit and impact. Deb describes herself as a

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happiness ambassador. How amazing is that? And

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enthusiastic human with a passion for music, travel life,

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people and all things uplifting. Her unconventional career

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includes being a bouncer, nightclub manager in London,

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through to other leadership sales and marketing roles. And

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across the past 20 years, she has coached, mentored and

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trained 1000s of people globally as a transformational master

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coach, as I said, from Australia, so no wonder Deb has

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become a wonderful friend of mine over the last couple of

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years since we met online. And given that this month is the

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theme of play. I thought that Deb and the wisdom playground

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would be a fabulous episode for everyone to be further inspired

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to bringing more play into our lives. So welcome, Deb.

Unknown:

Thank you, and how great Yes, to encourage everyone

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to bring more play into our lives can't have enough.

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Exactly. And they've been working on this

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theme myself, it's really made me realize, you know, like,

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where did that little six or seven year old girl go, right?

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And we have these societal norms or expectations of adults. And,

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you know, what if we just let our inner child out to play and

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didn't care about what other people thought and then we could

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have so much joy in the moment instead of feeling like, we

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can't show that wonderful emotion and I love the idea of

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just walking past the schoolyard. And you hear the

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laughter. So much laughter. Right. So I want to encourage

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people to get back to that.

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Blackley in general, it's kids that are having the

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most fun, we're actually asked to bring our our more laughter

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more play. In the wisdom playground, we call it an adult

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thing.

Melissa Deally:

I love it. There you go. I love it. So I would

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love for you to share your story because as you said, you've got

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a little bit of an eclectic background that has brought you

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into being this human enthusiast and happiness ambassador, so

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please share.

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So okay, so I grew up in Sydney. And I feel like I

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always was on a happiness inquiry. I wanted life to be fun

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and and I was a big party animal as a late teen like 17 to 30

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actually. And I really, really did give that a good crack. As

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as you said, I lived in London, I worked in nightclubs in music

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industry, and I really had some big time partying and eventually

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realized that I wasn't fully fulfilled. And that's when I

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started to look within and in 2003 I came back to Sydney to

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become a life coach. And then I've been on this huge personal

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development, spiritual development entrepreneurial

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development journey ever since And what I had realized is prior

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to this journey I had been seeking externally for

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happiness. And that's not where you find it. And so it has been

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a really interesting journey. Because I also was very

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judgmental of myself, I was very much critical to myself very

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mean to myself, and thankfully have learned not to do that. But

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also, I just

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want to stop you there, because how many people

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relate to that right now. Because that's kind of the way

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we naturally tend to go is to beat ourselves up for every

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little thing, and be super judgmental and super critical of

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ourselves and not giving ourselves any grace, or any

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space or stopping to celebrate the baby steps. And yet, we

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don't do that to others. Right, we're celebrating others. And we

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don't allow ourselves to celebrate ourselves.

Unknown:

Yeah, two really key things there. One is to we judge

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ourselves, time to stop it. And the other thing is to celebrate

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more be, celebrate all day, every day and appreciate and

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celebrate. And when we focus on that, we get more of that. So

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yes, those things are actually super key, key pieces to having

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a better life and a healthier life.

Melissa Deally:

It's something that I'm learning this year,

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actually, at the end of last year, I was on an event, I don't

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even remember what it was. And somebody said, to have a wind

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wall. So I've created a wind wall for 2022. And I have it

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over here and I see it every day. And, you know, that's kind

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of where I celebrate my little wins doesn't matter how small

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they are, but they're my wins, right? I achieved something, et

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cetera, et cetera. And it goes on my wall. And so I thought

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that was a brilliant idea in a way to bring that more to the

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forefront for me, right. So even as you and I talk about this, I

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hear you saying it's a journey, it's been almost 20 years for

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you, right? And so for other people listening, we're all

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still working on this.

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It's not a destination. It's an ongoing practice, to

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keep noticing how we're feeling what we're saying to ourselves

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and keep choosing because if we can fall into old habits of

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being mean to ourselves or judging ourselves, Well, I'm

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gonna assume it's old habits for everyone from now, okay.

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But yeah, to actually notice that because we can then choose

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differently, we can choose to focus on what we actually want,

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rather than what we don't want, we can actually choose to what

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we could celebrate or appreciate rather than what we want to

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complain or whinge about. And it makes it an incredible

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difference of where we're focusing. That's

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absolutely. And to your point, too. Sometimes

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people don't know what they want, because they spent but

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they do know what they don't want. But because they're

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spending so much time focusing on what they don't want, they

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haven't ever looked at it from the other side of what they do

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want.

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And it's worth considering if you are looking,

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you don't know what you want. But you know what, you don't

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want to actually go well imagine you don't like that's not

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happening anymore. What would you love to have happening? And

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even if you don't get the answer straightaway, just being the

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inquiry, of allowing that the messages to come to guide you to

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that. And you'll notice how you feel when it's expensive and

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light versus contractive. And heavy start to notice in your

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body. Because our body is guiding us and I think that I

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make the joke that everything that happened BC before COVID

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needs a refresh. Trying to make that stick Melissa. But we're in

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a new era, we are and I agree with you. Anything that is bc we

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were very much about thinking and being in our head and doing

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and and, and there's some value in that. But it's actually even

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more valuable when we bring our whole selves to the to the

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party, like our energy, our body, our everything is guiding

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us not just our head, our head can be very limited. When we can

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really tune into our heart and infinite wisdom and potential

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that we have access to. magic can happen and very quickly. And

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so it's starting to get to know how to tune into that more. It's

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so powerful.

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And sometimes it's the heart and sometimes

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it's also the unconscious mind, right? We get stuck in the

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conscious mind. But when we get out of the conscious mind and

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into our unconscious mind, we can also allow ourselves to be

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guided and as you say it's very powerful and that's where the

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quantum leap forward can happen.

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Yeah, I just told him Got it from the heart, because I

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think it's an easy way to access that unconscious. Right? I can

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using the breath, right? Yes, leaving just focusing on

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breathing, imagining you're breathing in through your heart

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and out through your heart. And very quickly you're present,

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you're in your heart, you're out of this small conscious mind

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limited to accessing the infinite possibilities and

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solutions that are available in every moment. It's so cool, we

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have so much more potential than we've been accessing. And it's

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very exciting to actually start to give ourselves permission to

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play with that and explore that.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. I love that. And a couple of

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episodes ago, I had somebody on who was talking about this as

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well, it was Lisa Brewer, and she was talking about, you know,

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being in the flow, right. And then she actually, her mantra,

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if I don't screw it up is give permission to your purpose to

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provide for your purpose.

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Nice, which I

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really liked as well. And when we do get into

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that place of flow, and we're in our heart, and all of these

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resources are available to us, as you said, we can do so much

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more. And with greater ease. Yes, and with more fun.

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That's the thing, that's that's actually what's

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available to us. If it's not easy. If it is struggle, then

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it's possibly a sign that's not the path that that moment, it's

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like we're actually being guided all the time. It's noticing and

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being aware and allowing, allowing the, like you say the

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flow, really, the ease,

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exactly. And that's also something I'm

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working on, because I'm very much someone who was raised and

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spent, you know, all of my corporate years in my head, it's

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kind of the expectation, it was just the norm as a not to

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mention the norm of, well, we pay you for 40 hours a week

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because you're on a salary, but we actually expect you to get

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all of the work done that we're giving you. And if it takes 60

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hours, then you got to do it, you got to stay in work for 60

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hours, right? And that whole societal mindset that you're

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supposed to work harder to show your dedication, as opposed to

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that it's actually meant to be easy. So like, I'm having to

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undo all of that learning as well. Maybe that's part of my

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adulting adulting adulting.

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Yeah, well, I think that most of us have been

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conditioned, to work hard to be in the struggle to always be in

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our head, that it's actually we haven't, we haven't actually,

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it's not been okay to feel your feelings. It's not been okay to

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be vulnerable. It's starting to be there's a growing

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consciousness of that, which is fantastic. Because emotions are

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important. It's energy, emotion, we are energy, and so actually

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not needing to judge emotions, and we don't need to suffer in

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them and be them. But to actually allow ourselves to feel

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and express is a very healthy thing. Because if we don't, as

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you know, we don't allow those feelings to be expressed, then

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they're going to store in the body and come out in some level

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of dis ease.

Melissa Deally:

Absolutely. It's interesting, because they're

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running a detox program right now with some people. And it's

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amazing how quickly some people start to release the emotions in

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a detox program. Right? That's not why they started doing it.

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It's not what they were expecting. But it's what's

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coming up. Which is wonderful, right? Because they're in a

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place where they're now allowing those those emotions to start to

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release, which that's

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the pathway to them being in full health. Right,

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exactly. How is it? They haven't expressed them that they're

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having whatever challenge they're having? So it makes

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total sense to hear that? Yeah.

Melissa Deally:

Yeah. So it's been 10 years of a journey for

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you. Can you share some highlights some aha moments or

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pivotal moments as you have been on this path to creating the

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wisdom playground? Because I know the wisdom playground is a

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BC. Business, right? Sorry. pandemic, baby. Yes. That's

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relatively new. So what were the pivotal moments that got you to

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where you're at today?

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Yeah. So yeah, the last 20 years I've been in the

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coaching industry. And absolutely, you know, back then,

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when I started, lots of people hadn't even heard of what that

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was. It's so great that there's been such a growing evolution of

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awareness of lots of people kind of actually learning to become

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more self aware and interest Did in their own growth and, and

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things like that. So I have been doing many great things through

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that time in coaching and training. And

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I'm gonna jump in there too, as well, just to

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say that it's there's a greater awareness in people that they do

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better when they work with someone else who's already been

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there, right. And there's not any shame in that it's actually,

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you know, courage to go, Hey, this is what I want to do. This

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is where I want to go, who can get me there the fastest. So

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again, it's looking for that ease, right, and recognizing

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that everyone needs coaches, we have coaches in from community

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sports as a child or school sports, right. And we've had

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business coaches for years, and all these different types of

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coaches. And now people are recognizing, it's okay to have a

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coach in my life, and it's actually going to advance me

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faster, which is

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a great thing to have multiple coaches in. To focus on

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absolutely and. And we're as humans, we're not meant to do it

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alone, we have been conditioned to be very independent and

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compete. But actually, we're here to collaborate and bring

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each other's the best of each other out. And I suppose that's

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what happened with the wisdom playground is when, when the

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world changed. My beautiful businessman and Gary and I were

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talking and and we wanted to focus on reinvention and

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consciously creating new and better ways, rather than just go

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back to the old. And rather than what happens if we don't

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consciously create something new, we will just repeat what we

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know. And so here is an opportunity, anything is

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possible, the fact that what happened in 2020, if you ask

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yourself, would you have thought that was possible before it

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happened? I would say most of us would say absolutely not, I

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totally would not have thought that could have been possible

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what has happened in the world? I would agree. I would agree.

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Yeah, that shows anything is possible. So we can actually

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create the dream, we can actually create the most amazing

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world where everyone is supported and thriving, that is

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actually possible. And it takes a conscious creation, and it

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takes us all tapping into the best of our humanity. It takes

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us tapping into collaborating together. So I like that you

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said you know we Yes, we we all benefit from coaches and support

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and doing things together rather than some things. It's good to,

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you know, it's also you need some stuff alone. However,

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there's too much independence and competition in the VC world.

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That keeps us separate, divided and conquered, you know, it's

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time to unite, collaborate and actually co create. And so the

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pivotal moments have been, I've always been unconventional. So

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I've always wanted things to be done in different ways. I

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haven't really followed the path of the mainstream or the way

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they say you should, should do it, whoever they are. But yeah.

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So I was always gonna mature then. This happened in 2020, on

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very different plans, I was on my way to wanting to spend a lot

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more time in Hawaii. And anyway, this has happened and what

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happened with the wisdom playground has been quite

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magical. Because it's sort of it unfolded through us. It's not

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like Gabby and I said, let's create a business together. It

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was just through conversation and ideas that when we were

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playing with started with the singles party on Zoom called

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singles. I think I attended one of them. I don't think you

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attended that one. But you did attend one of our collaborative

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learning parties, which has then led into us having a beautiful

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new era business incubator membership, with amazing

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coaches, healers and New Era wisdom teachers that doing

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incredible things on the planet, and were always explored, like

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it's a really healthy environment, to explore how to

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do new and better ways in business that make business

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easier and more profit and greater impact. So yeah,

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exciting.

Melissa Deally:

I love that you're creating that to support

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the coaches that are trying to do more, right, because

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sometimes it's hard to get out and be heard and be seen, above

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all the noise that's out there. But when you collaborate, and

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you find your tribe and everybody's working together, it

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makes it much much easier. That's right.

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And it's typically in general, the coaching industry,

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coaches and healers are not making a lot of money and we

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want to change that so they're fully thriving. They can help

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more people now navigate these crazy times and have everyone

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thriving. So it's it's driven by that. And we have some unique

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wisdom around supporting them in that. But it's also those that

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might be not even coaching yet. So say they're in corporate, and

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they've got all this wisdom and experience, and they need

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support to package their wisdom. That's another opportunity.

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Because everyone has wisdom to share right now, whatever

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experiences we've been through not just the recent training

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we've done, our whole life has had wisdom, experience and ways

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we can contribute to another human. And it's time for

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everyone to start sharing that.

Melissa Deally:

Absolutely. And I look at it as everything is

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happening to us for a reason, and bringing us to the point in

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time where we're at. So everything that happened,

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whether you deemed it as good or bad, is something that adds to

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your wisdom that you now have to share with others.

Unknown:

Exactly. And that's what you said, whether you if

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you deem it good or bad, we label things good, bad, right?

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We're the ones creating the judgment. And it's just time to

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drop jugs, judgments and transcendent judgment is the

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thing that's in the way of so much goodness, really. It's so

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incredible. I love it. And actually, you know, you said a

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critical moment. One of them was my very first life coaching

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course. I actually heard this chant the story of the Chinese

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farmer about judgment. Have you heard of it?

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Please share, I will share

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my version. So essentially, this Chinese farmer

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and he had a his son living with him and a horse and the horse

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ran away. All the neighbors came around and go, Oh, isn't that

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terrible, your horses run away. And the Chinese farmer said

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maybe the next day, the horse actually came back with seven

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wild horses. And so now they have eight horses, and they

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thought the neighbors come around. And so he's amazing. You

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go to these horses and the farmers like maybe the next day,

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the sun is breaking in one of the horses and falls off and

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breaks his leg. And all the neighbors come around, say, oh,

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isn't that terrible, your son's broken his leg and the farm is

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like maybe the next day, the military come along, trying to

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get everyone all the abled men to join the military and they

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couldn't take the sun and all the neighbors great. He's on

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can't go off to military up. The farmer says maybe so I that that

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story has just, I just love because I was very judgmental. I

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was very judgmental person. And I'm if I don't check myself, I

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can still be judging. However, it's so peaceful when I don't

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judge and it's so powerful. And it's something that I feel is a

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pathway to an amazing life when we can transcend judgment. And

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so and it is yeah. Definite. Helps helps being more playful

Unknown:

when we don't judge ourselves.

Melissa Deally:

And it's funny because I have heard that story.

Melissa Deally:

And I've heard it very recently. And it wasn't a Chinese farmer.

Melissa Deally:

I heard it as an Albertan farmer, but the same

Unknown:

well, then clearly was told by Canadian

Melissa Deally:

but the same messaging, right, which, you

Melissa Deally:

know, is so important. It's maybe let's see what happens

Melissa Deally:

especially when we take it as everything's happening for us.

Melissa Deally:

Why is this happening? What can I learn from this? You know,

Melissa Deally:

you're not going to know it in the moment as in the case of the

Melissa Deally:

story, they realize the next day right and it might not be the

Melissa Deally:

next day for you. It might be a week down the road, it might be

Melissa Deally:

a year down the road. Look back. There's so many moments in your

Melissa Deally:

life that you look back with that 2020 hindsight and you're

Melissa Deally:

actually grateful for them. In the moment you're like, oh my

Melissa Deally:

god, this is awful. This is the worst thing ever. So how much

Melissa Deally:

time was wasted and emotional turmoil did you go through

Melissa Deally:

thinking oh my god, this is the worst thing ever as opposed to

Melissa Deally:

like you say getting into that place of non judgment and

Melissa Deally:

finding peace and acceptance instead.

Unknown:

Yeah, I'm I have found when I remember everything is

Unknown:

happening for me even when it's really shitty. It's so helpful

Unknown:

to get through those times and when we do look closely, there

Unknown:

is always gifts blessings, positives that come from

Unknown:

everything. And I noticed that as well working with Gabby in

Unknown:

the wisdom playground every time we come up with a what we would

Unknown:

see as a block. It hasn't gone the way we wanted. It's always

Unknown:

an upgrade. Yes. Incredible. It is so incredible. It's not

Unknown:

exactly what our mind thought we wanted to see the bigger

Unknown:

picture, it's actually better and leads to better in the

Unknown:

future. So it's such a, it's a gorgeous, gorgeous way to look

Unknown:

at things.

Melissa Deally:

Exactly. So every time we think it's a block

Melissa Deally:

or something holding us back is actually just getting us to take

Melissa Deally:

the leap forward.

Unknown:

Yeah, and especially for I see coaches, healers, New

Unknown:

Era wisdom teachers that are wanting to support people in

Unknown:

their area of wisdom. When they come up with a challenge, it is

Unknown:

often something to learn so they can help their clients, they

Unknown:

don't have to make themselves wrong or bad, or like, it's so

Unknown:

interesting how that happens all the time, as well. So it's

Unknown:

really cool when we're aware of that, because it does make the

Unknown:

journey of the challenging bits a bit easier.

Melissa Deally:

Exactly, exactly. If you're enjoying my

Melissa Deally:

content, and someone that wants to step into being proactive in

Melissa Deally:

your health and learning more, I would love to invite you to join

Melissa Deally:

my membership community. There's a link in the show notes for

Melissa Deally:

only 1999 a month, you get access to all of my content. And

Melissa Deally:

there's a lot as well as weekly calls that you can come and get

Melissa Deally:

your health questions answered.

Melissa Deally:

It's truly priceless. And love to see you join the community,

Melissa Deally:

check out the link in the show notes.

Melissa Deally:

So talk to me about how you bring play into the wisdom

Melissa Deally:

playground, but into your daily life.

Unknown:

Cool. Yeah. So I feel that as I mentioned before, that

Unknown:

heart breathing and really noticing what is going on for us

Unknown:

and our body and our, our what feels, what feels the yes, what

Unknown:

feels the know and to be guided as much as possible, as often as

Unknown:

possible throughout the day. I mean, we can be guided every

Unknown:

step if we choose to, which is so cool. So that is playing with

Unknown:

the universe, from my perspective playing with with

Unknown:

it, because it's just so fun when we do it. But it's also

Unknown:

doing the things that light us up that is and so the more

Unknown:

tuning we are we the more we know what does and what doesn't.

Unknown:

And there's so many common things to look at. Like for me

Unknown:

dancing, I love to dance, I love to laugh, I love nature, getting

Unknown:

in nature, exercising, moving, and body. All those things are a

Unknown:

beautiful ways to play and allow more possibility into into our

Unknown:

world as well. Some people like to do creative projects, I think

Unknown:

that's something that I, I have been quite focused on working

Unknown:

and I have some creative projects. Now it's like, Okay,

Unknown:

it's time to actually carve out some time and prioritize some of

Unknown:

that, because we're actually always creating that's as humans

Unknown:

we're always creating, so why not consciously create and be in

Unknown:

the playfulness of creating, and it comes back to not judging it

Unknown:

because I remember one time I went to first time I went to

Unknown:

life drawing where there's a nude model, and you bring your,

Unknown:

whatever you want to draw with, like the paper and whatever,

Unknown:

using pencils and crayons, whatever. And I just love it, it

Unknown:

was so it was just so fun to be doing that. And I was looking at

Unknown:

my thing going, I'm not bad at this. And then when I walked

Unknown:

around so some people who are like proper artists, I can help

Unknown:

with this. I was like, oh, okay, I'm not great at it. But however

Unknown:

art it can it's in the eye of the eye of the viewer, right?

Unknown:

What's something good to someone not to say? And it's like, well,

Unknown:

that's the same with life as well. Right? And so just to have

Unknown:

fun with it means it's a great use of time. And other other

Unknown:

insights can come to us when we're not trying to focus and

Unknown:

push and struggle and, and, and really work hard. I feel even

Unknown:

this month of a that I've had just the month that's gone. I

Unknown:

had more time off and actually have done better financially and

Unknown:

I've had more fun and I've had and it's like ah, so good to

Unknown:

have this. Working harder is not always better. And so yes,

Unknown:

that's sort of lifestyle wise, it's good to have our own

Unknown:

practice of making sure we're doing some stuff that we love

Unknown:

that makes us feel good that that lights us up. In the wisdom

Unknown:

playground. We like to bring that vibe to at all, all things

Unknown:

that we do in our communications and in our events, which we call

Unknown:

parties, we like to bring that energy. And it's something that

Unknown:

we can always add more ideas to, and how to do it. One of the

Unknown:

things that we like to do now and then is a, an improv game,

Unknown:

you know, with that? Where we Yes, and, yeah, so it's like a

Unknown:

topic. And then I say something, and then you would say yes, and

Unknown:

then you'd add to it, and then I say yes, and and add to it, and

Unknown:

then you kind of it's a brainstorming thing that allows

Unknown:

really crazy, crazy answers. But those crazy answers can actually

Unknown:

be really brilliant, you know, some of them comes up with new

Unknown:

things. So,

Melissa Deally:

or a smarter? next idea. Right? Exactly. It's

Melissa Deally:

actually comes back to what you were saying earlier for people

Melissa Deally:

that, you know, they know what they don't want, but they don't

Melissa Deally:

know what they do want. And you're saying, you know, sit

Melissa Deally:

with that and think about it and spend some time with yourself on

Melissa Deally:

that. And what's really important there is to treat that

Melissa Deally:

like you would any other brainstorming session. So allow

Melissa Deally:

any idea to flow. If it sounds too outlandish to you don't shut

Melissa Deally:

it down and push it away. Let it flow. And then you can even

Melissa Deally:

build on that. You can do the Yes. And with yourself with the

Melissa Deally:

thoughts that are coming. And yes. And and then what's next,

Unknown:

right? And another one is what if so what if

Unknown:

everything? Because what if it could just magically become

Unknown:

better than you even imagined? And what if it was blah, blah,

Unknown:

blah. And so that's a similar kind of concept, but it might

Unknown:

resonate even more. Right.

Melissa Deally:

And it just allows the mind to keep opening

Melissa Deally:

and opening and opening and opening? And get into that

Melissa Deally:

expansive place.

Unknown:

Yeah. And that's, that's the beauty of empowering

Unknown:

questions, though. The what, who, where, how, when that into

Unknown:

possibility, those empowering questions are really cool to

Unknown:

expand, expand our mindset. So that we can tap into far greater

Unknown:

than what's happened before. And that's the that's the

Unknown:

opportunity, we have so much more, as I said, before, so much

Unknown:

potential, every single human has access to far more potential

Unknown:

than we're tapping into. So that means you, me, everyone, like we

Unknown:

will and expand beyond where we have before it can keep getting

Unknown:

better, can keep getting more magical. It's so, so exciting.

Unknown:

We are we are at we are living at a very, very exciting time on

Unknown:

the planet.

Melissa Deally:

We are and I agree that there's so much more

Melissa Deally:

realization to this right now. And more and more people are

Melissa Deally:

opening to the expansiveness of it to the fact that there is

Melissa Deally:

abundance on this earth. And we can just, you know, get into

Melissa Deally:

that place of ease and flow to build that abundance. And as we

Melissa Deally:

do it in collaboration, we're helping other people get there,

Melissa Deally:

too. And we all rise up together.

Unknown:

Absolutely. And actually say, saying that, you

Unknown:

know, I'm, I'm a big fan of the open questions. I'm also a fan

Unknown:

of the empowering affirmations. Because I said, it's been a

Unknown:

great month.

Unknown:

I've been saying to myself, my life is fun. And it has been,

Unknown:

it's like really work getting that one stuck in your head.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. And How simple is that? How simple

Melissa Deally:

is that? Right? And, you know, what, if you stop and think

Melissa Deally:

about the thoughts that you're typically saying to yourself,

Melissa Deally:

how much more fun is it to say that thought to yourself instead

Melissa Deally:

of what you're typically saying to yourself,

Unknown:

and it's extra fun when you've said it for a little

Unknown:

while, and then you stop noticing, oh, this is far more

Unknown:

fun than what was before. Like, it's actually amazing.

Melissa Deally:

Yeah. So do you have any suggestions for people,

Melissa Deally:

whether they're, you know, coaches, or solopreneurs, or

Melissa Deally:

even still in the corporate world, that, besides the mantra,

Melissa Deally:

anything else that they can take and easily implement in order to

Melissa Deally:

bring fun into their work environment? Is it like maybe

Melissa Deally:

it's breaking up their day in some way? What do you suggest?

Unknown:

Yeah, so we, we talked about judgment. So it's one of

Unknown:

the things it's time to let go of. So notice when we're judging

Unknown:

and instead of judging, get curious, so and get curious with

Unknown:

those questions of I like what you said, What am I here? What

Unknown:

am I? What can I learn from this? Or how is this serving me?

Unknown:

Or I don't know, the any open question or the wadi thing or

Unknown:

the yes ending or the, you know, the it's like move out of

Unknown:

judgment into curiosity as often as possible, really notice,

Unknown:

because also notice when we're doubting ourselves, who many of

Unknown:

us are actually, really like, we're all capable of incredible

Unknown:

things, we're so amazing, yet we get in our own way, by doubting

Unknown:

ourselves. And so if you notice down in yourself, just laugh

Unknown:

every time you doubt yourself, laugh at it, because the first

Unknown:

time I had that strategy, I was laughing a lot that day, so it

Unknown:

was good.

Melissa Deally:

And we knew how healthy laughter is for us. And

Melissa Deally:

I've said this many times before. So regular listeners

Melissa Deally:

will have heard me say it before, but it's worthy of

Melissa Deally:

repeating that just one Fun Minute of laughter boosts your

Melissa Deally:

immune system for 24 hours. And one minute of fear or stress, or

Melissa Deally:

anger will weaken it for four hours. And in that fear, stress

Melissa Deally:

and anger, I would even put doubting ourselves. Because when

Melissa Deally:

we're doubting ourselves, we're probably drumming up a little

Melissa Deally:

bit of fear and a little bit of stress, right? Or that there.

Melissa Deally:

And that's why we're doubting ourselves. And that's weakening

Melissa Deally:

our immune system for four hours. So yes, erase it with

Melissa Deally:

laughter. That's brilliant.

Unknown:

Yeah, and so also know about doubt. If you're doubting

Unknown:

that potentially means you're actually trusting in the belief

Unknown:

you don't prefer. So perhaps there's no doubt perhaps it's

Unknown:

just trust in something. And you might as well trust in what you

Unknown:

want, rather than that belief that you don't prefer the doubt

Unknown:

because that does not feel good. doubting ourselves does not feel

Unknown:

good. So stop it. Let it go back to BC and from now on, no more

Unknown:

doubt, and just go for it and play because it's like it when

Unknown:

we can let go of judgment of the result. It it means if it goes

Unknown:

bad or wrong, bad wrong, which we're labeling it, it doesn't

Unknown:

matter. So there's a beautiful movie on Disney called Soul.

Unknown:

Have you seen that one, Melissa? Okay, so go check it out. It's

Unknown:

such a reminder that our souls come here to experience life to

Unknown:

experience the senses, to taste the pizza, to smell the roses to

Unknown:

do all the things, and they fall over and hurt themselves. But it

Unknown:

doesn't matter. It's like, it's like, we're just here to live

Unknown:

and experience and create and enjoy. And and that comes back

Unknown:

to if we can just not make a big deal about everything, and not

Unknown:

make it like that let go of the making the meaning and the

Unknown:

judgments about everything. It just becomes so much easier. And

Unknown:

so I would say practice that really noticing, are you

Unknown:

judging? Or are you in curiosity, and just really start

Unknown:

to tap More into curiosity with asking better questions, playing

Unknown:

with possibilities, using your breath, choosing what feels good

Unknown:

to you, what lights you up, giving yourself permission to do

Unknown:

that celebrating and appreciating every step you take

Unknown:

in that direction. And let me know how you go.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. I love that so many gems in that

Melissa Deally:

last five minutes right there that are brilliant. Thank you.

Melissa Deally:

And I just want to come back to somewhere in there you were

Melissa Deally:

talking about, you know, the judgment. And I was hearing like

Melissa Deally:

the not doing thing, the doubt is because we're fearing

Melissa Deally:

something right? And the feeling is coming up because it's not

Melissa Deally:

the right path for us potentially. And so we need to

Melissa Deally:

stop and figure out what the right path is. But also to know

Melissa Deally:

that we don't need to fear what might happen. And so often

Melissa Deally:

that's fear of failure or not achieving the goal or whatever

Melissa Deally:

it is because there really is no failure. Yeah, it's simply an

Melissa Deally:

opportunity for feedback. That's right, from which we learn and

Melissa Deally:

then keep moving forward. And so that's a huge piece of that of

Melissa Deally:

being able to choose that recognize that and step into it

Melissa Deally:

anyway.

Unknown:

That's right. So it's like be present in the moment to

Unknown:

feel if it's a yes or no for you to take that action. So you will

Unknown:

know if you feel lighter and more expansive. Or if you feel

Unknown:

heavier and more contracted. You can start to learn your yes and

Unknown:

no. If it's a yes, you just go for it. And it doesn't matter

Unknown:

what happens. Like let go of the outcome, the judgment of

Unknown:

whatever happens all of that and trusting. It's the next And

Unknown:

it's, it's all good, then take the next step. It doesn't have

Unknown:

to be that odd, our mind can make it really challenging.

Unknown:

Yeah, we don't have to do that anymore. Yeah,

Melissa Deally:

I love it. Well, I love all of the work that you

Melissa Deally:

do, and the wisdom playground and the support that you're

Melissa Deally:

giving to coaches and others that are, you know, in their

Melissa Deally:

businesses so that everyone can collaborate and serve more

Melissa Deally:

people as a result, right. And so, as we start to wrap up here,

Melissa Deally:

I love to ask my guests, what does don't wait for your wake up

Melissa Deally:

call mean to you.

Unknown:

For me, that means be proactive in designing the life

Unknown:

we want, actually, our health is so important. And actually, we

Unknown:

can make positive steps towards that today. And if we don't, as

Unknown:

you say, if we keep going down a path that is unhealthy, we will

Unknown:

get a wake up call. And it happens from the the universe is

Unknown:

total, I say universe, some people say, God or whoever,

Unknown:

whatever they want to call source, different all the

Unknown:

different names for for that. But for me, the universe will do

Unknown:

it for now. So the universe will give us messages, and it starts

Unknown:

with a whisper. And then it gets louder can become a pebble in

Unknown:

any kind of a brick and bouldering brick house on top of

Unknown:

us and that wake up call is not pleasant. So why wait for that?

Unknown:

Like, why? Why Why? Why not listen now?

Melissa Deally:

Back to what you're saying? Yeah, you know,

Melissa Deally:

listen now and tap into your body and learn that yes or no

Melissa Deally:

role. And when we work with our body in this way, that's when we

Melissa Deally:

do get to be in that flow state. And it's when we get to have

Melissa Deally:

optimal energy and optimal health because we're in

Melissa Deally:

alignment. That's not fighting ourselves. Love that

Unknown:

thing, that energy alignment is so powerful and

Unknown:

such a fun way to live life. And we all have that ability to

Unknown:

choose that. It's so it's available to every single one of

Unknown:

us. And that's why it's so great. The work you're doing,

Unknown:

Melissa, because for those who haven't listened can get on

Unknown:

track now with you. But those listening to the podcast well

Unknown:

done, because yeah, you don't have to wait till it gets really

Unknown:

bad, like, start doing the fun stuff now.

Melissa Deally:

And I love what you said too, is choose you get

Melissa Deally:

to choose, right, everything is a choice. And that comes back to

Melissa Deally:

when we believe that things happen for us, not to us, we're

Melissa Deally:

not blaming, right, and we can see the choices. That's right.

Melissa Deally:

And there are always choices, even when we think it's the

Melissa Deally:

worst day ever. There are still choices, right? choices on how

Melissa Deally:

you respond to that and choices to how you move forward. So

Melissa Deally:

that's a really important point as well, that it's, it's all a

Melissa Deally:

choice. So I love it, love what you're doing. So thank you,

Melissa Deally:

thank you so much for being on the show. But before I let you

Melissa Deally:

go, please tell the audience how they can get ahold of you. And I

Melissa Deally:

believe you have a free gift for the audience as well.

Unknown:

Yes, we do. So our website is the wisdom

Unknown:

playground. So T H E wisdom playground.com. And I'd be

Unknown:

delighted to connect with anyone on social media and all those

Unknown:

types of things. I'm Deb King, we have a freebie. If you're a

Unknown:

coach or healer of some description, we have an amazing

Unknown:

guide for you that shows you what the greatest coaches on the

Unknown:

planet do differently to everyone else, the ones that are

Unknown:

super successful, what they do to everyone else. And that's a

Unknown:

free guide. It's 19 pages where you get to see those things and

Unknown:

rate yourself on those things. So that would be the first

Unknown:

freebie for everyone else. We have a little play cheat sheet

Unknown:

for us with some reflection questions just to kind of

Unknown:

actually play with in terms of your inquiry around playing

Unknown:

more. So that's available as well and very excited to connect

Unknown:

with anyone who wants to discuss this topic or share actually,

Unknown:

please

Unknown:

definitely

Unknown:

if you apply anything we've talked about, I'd love to hear

Unknown:

how you go. So yeah, very excited to always meet like

Unknown:

hearted humans that want to thrive.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. Thank you so much. And I'll make

Melissa Deally:

sure the links to both are in the show notes. And yeah,

Melissa Deally:

Pleased to the audience if you are implementing any of this

Melissa Deally:

from our discussion today, please share it on social tag

Melissa Deally:

Deb tag myself, because we'd love to celebrate that with you.

Melissa Deally:

It's definitely something to celebrate. And Deb, what last

Melissa Deally:

tip would you like to leave the audience with to have them step

Melissa Deally:

into this and get started today?

Unknown:

I would love to say is you are here, there is no

Unknown:

mistake that you are here right now you have so much love in

Unknown:

your heart and wisdom to share more than you even realize. And

Unknown:

actually just give yourself permission to now live your best

Unknown:

life ever moving forward.

Melissa Deally:

Love that. Beautiful way to end the show.

Melissa Deally:

So inspirational. Thank you so much for joining us here today,

Melissa Deally:

Deb. And thank you to the audience for joining us here and

Melissa Deally:

tuning in week in and week out to the don't wait for your wake

Melissa Deally:

up call podcast. I appreciate every one of you to thank you.

Melissa Deally:

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Melissa Deally:

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Melissa Deally:

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About the Podcast

Don't Wait For Your Wake Up Call!
with Melissa Deally, Integrative Health Practitioner
As an Integrative Health Practitioner I have come to realize that we simply haven't been taught how to optimize our health, and that the average person has habits that are negatively impacting their health, due to this lack of knowledge, through no fault of their own. Public health and our school system simply don't teach us enough about nutrition, sleep, stress, gut health or how interconnected our bodies are! Modern life has us more sleep deprived, stressed out and the sickest ever, and I believe it is time to bring this education to you, so that you CAN be empowered in your health and you can then make the right choices for you and your family. The choices you make today impact your future 1 year, 5 years, 10 years + from now. It is never too early to start looking after your health, as Health is your TRUE wealth....without it what do you have?

About your host

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Melissa Deally

Melissa is an Integrative Mind Body Health Practitioner helping people get to the root cause of their health issue. Melissa neither diagnoses nor cures, but helps bring your body back into balance by helping discover your “toxic load” and then removing the toxins. Melissa offers functional medicine lab testing that helps you “see inside” to know exactly what is going on, and then provides a personalized wellness protocol using natural herbs and supplements. Melissa’s business is 100% virtual – the lab tests are mailed directly to your home and she specializes in holding your hand and guiding the way to healing, so that you don’t have to figure it all out on your own.